A show dedicated to those who think they may be living in or are recovering from domestic abuse /narcissistic/ antisocial abuse. A soft approach that teaches the importance of self worth. Domestic abuse is defined as any pattern of behavior in a relationship used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner. Abuse is psychological, physical, sexual, and sometimes financial. Behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, or wound are abusive. More supporti ...
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Welcome to the Domestic Abuse Unchurched podcast. Each week we'll be stepping into the void and addressing the issue of domestic abuse in the church. Unchurched means 'not belonging to or connected with a church'. Domestic abuse ought not to belong or have any connection with the church. The church ought to be a place that promotes salvation (preservation or deliverance from harm, ruin or loss) for all who call on the name of Jesus Christ. It's time to step-up and no longer side-step.
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Welcome to Spotlight, the podcast that shines a light on the issues around domestic abuse
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I am domestic abuse survivor ,a mother and a warrior on a mission to fight the battle in efforts to emancipate others who suffer at the hands of their abuser, victims who are still living with the devastation domestic abuse.My podcast follows my survivor story and those of other brave survivors.The podcast will also feature guest speakers who have knowledge and experience of working in the field as well as guests who are survivors,domestic abuse champions and ambassadors.I carried the shame ...
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Finding me is a bi-monthly podcast helping women transition from barely surviving to truly thriving after escaping domestic abuse. The cases of domestic abuse is rising at an exponential rate, much of the effort by the police and civil agencies and charities is focused on getting women and children out of immediate danger, whilst it is of course the right thing to do, it is not where the story ends. A woman who has experienced domestic abuse, will often suffer the ramifications of that abuse ...
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'The Hidden Self.' (YouTube and Facebook.) Brothers Cris and Jay look at a more in depth aspect to both the perpetrator and victim in domestic violence situations as well as abuse in the workplace where boundaries are vague between rudeness and sheer mental and physical abuse. They also discuss one's ability to think more about what we think and how that can have a massive positive impact on who we are and how we treat others. Contains some coarse language.
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Stress & Anxiety Management with Dr. Michele Vecchione Finneran
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This episode features Dr. Vecchione Finneran giving tips and a better understanding of what chronic toxic stress is. Ways to help yourself when burnt out.
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Counter Allegations podcast with Lucy Giles
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In its latest podcast, SafeLives' Lucy Giles highlights the challenges that domestic abuse professionals face identifying primary perpetrators in cases of domestic abuse and dealing with counter allegations. Counter allegations, where both parties allege abuse, are a common challenge for professionals encountering domestic abuse. Prevailing misconc…
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Listen when feeling unworthy. Love Jen.
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This episode covers finding courage deep within and how to over come feeling defeated in the face of rejection and maltreatment. Ambivalence with feeling scared and loved and safe all at the same time from care takers and partners is also covered.
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Natalie and Relationship Counselor Elaine Conway discuss strategies for domestic abuse survivors to help prioritize their health and well-being, no matter where they are in their journey. Support the showKirjoittanut Natalie W
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Series Two: We're Back..
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After an extended break our hosts come together to discuss what has kept them busy over the last 18 months and what they plan to cover in the second series of Finding Me: Rebuild You and Your Life After Domestic Abuse. Support the showKirjoittanut Natalie W
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The Narcissistic Ideal Self Part 1: A Grandiose Portrayal
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This episode covers development of grandiosity within a narcissistic personality. Signs of someone living in an “ideal” version of reality and why it’s impossible to have a healthy/ functional relationship with them. Education on NPD pathology helping partners to release responsibility for the painful dynamic they are experiencing.…
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Tips for getting through holidays after abuse
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This episode covers helpful ways to reframe distorted versions of holidays and memories we remember while we are sad and struggling. How to snap out of it and come back to your inner peace. Happy Fourth of July! ❤️
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Idealization Trauma: Pressure to be perfect 😍
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This episode discusses the 3 phases of the narcissistic abuse cycle in depth. The psychological effects of being idealized by a partner suffering from NPD. The lasting self blame patterns we develop following idealization are explained.
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Heightened Response After Prolonged Abuse
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This episode discusses the neurobiological changes that happen in the brain after/ during trauma. How heightened emotional response develops over time and why. Feeling numb and under responsiveness is also covered.
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International Women's Day with Restored
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To mark International Women's Day 2023 'Embrace Equity', I joined Emma from Restored to chat about achievements. https://www.restored-uk.org Thank you for listening. You can reach us on: Email: info@iamanovercomer.org.uk Website: www.iamanovercomer.org.uk Or find us on: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/msovercomer Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.c…
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Conversation with Trisha Musara
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To mark International Women's Day 2023, Embrace Equity, on this episode I'm joined by my sister, Trisha. Thank you for joining us as we talk about equity, women and resilience. Trisha's contact details are: trishamusara@yahoo.com @sculptbeautyhre (Instagram and Facebook) Thank you for listening. You can reach us on: Email: info@iamanovercomer.org.u…
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Domestic abuse is commonly portrayed as a gendered crime, perpetrated by men against women. However, there is also the staggering truth that one third of domestic abuse victims are men. On this episode, I am joined by Ken, a male survivor of domestic abuse. If we are going to make an impact in combating the issue of domestic abuse, it is going to t…
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Conversation with Justin Humphreys
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Justin shares nuggets of wisdom and knowledge with understanding in the areas of safeguarding and creating healthy church cultures. Justin is CEO of thirtyone:eight, an independent Christian safeguarding charity operating across the United Kingdom and internationally. Established in 1977, the charity now supports in excess of 10,000 member organisa…
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Conversation with Jackson Nazombe
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Jackson speaks candidly on the issue of domestic abuse. He unpacks African cultures, beliefs and mindsets that perpetuate abuse. Jackson can be reached on jackson.nazombe@gmail.com Thank you for listening. You can reach us on: Email: info@iamanovercomer.org.uk Website: www.iamanovercomer.org.uk Or find us on: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/msov…
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Conversation with Dr. Afua Appiah
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Dr Afua Appiah is a Highly Specialist Clinical Psychologist who works in children and adolescent services in London, UK. She joins us on this week's episode to share about how abuse affects mental health. Afua has worked in Mental Health Services for approximately 10 years with complex conditions and presentations. She has worked in services across…
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Conversation with Moses Musa Jawara
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Moses, our guest this week, starts off by sharing a powerful testimony, then goes on to share some sad truths on why some BAME pastors won't confront the issue of domestic abuse. Born into a Muslim family, Moses gave his life to Jesus after encountering His love at a Reinhard Bonnke crusade. He now ministers under Christian Reformed Church Sierra L…
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Conversation with Olefile Masangane
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Olefile encourages BAME church leaders to 'sit in the discomfort' of engaging in the discussion of domestic abuse. Under the umbrella of Heartlines based in Johannesburg , South Africa; Olefile is a church mobilisation manager and facilitator, passionate about social cohesion and coming alongside communities in coming up with homegrown solutions. H…
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Conversation with David Flowers
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On this week's episode, Pastor David Flowers, senior leader of Leeds Vineyard Church shares his thoughts on the issue of domestic abuse and his pastoral viewpoint and responsibility should a member of his congregation make a disclosure of abuse. Thank you for listening. You can reach us on: Email: info@iamanovercomer.org.uk Website: www.iamanoverco…
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Conversation with Chuck Derry
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Chuck Derry has worked to end men’s violence against women since 1983. From 1983 to 1993, he worked with male offenders in St. Cloud Minnesota and was the men’s program coordinator for six of those years. In 1994, he co-founded the Gender Violence Institute in Clearwater Minnesota and through that organization provides training and technical assist…
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Conversation with Reverend Dr. Helen Paynter
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Our first episode of 2023 is with bible specialist, Reverend Dr. Helen Paynter. Helen unpacks and brings insight to key scriptures that are used as weapons to keep victims and survivors of abuse in bondage. Helen's work can be found on www.csbvbristol.org.uk Thank you for listening. You can reach us on: Email: info@iamanovercomer.org.uk Website: ww…
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On this final episode for 2022, I share how the Domestic Abuse podcast is going so far, and our first guest for 2023. May you have a Merry, Blessed and Safe Christmas, and may you embrace courage in 2023. Tune in on January 7th, for our first episode of the year!! Thank you for listening. You can reach us on: Email: info@iamanovercomer.org.uk Websi…
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Conversation with Restored
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An essential work for the safety of victims and survivors of domestic abuse, Emma, from Restored, shares how their organisation broaches and tackles the issue of domestic abuse, and how the church can be trained and equipped to do the same. Thank you for listening. You can reach us on: Email: info@iamanovercomer.org.uk Website: www.iamanovercomer.o…
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Conversation with Reverend David Burrow
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Reverend David Burrow, a Methdist minister in Rossendale, steps up to talk about domestic abuse. Thank you for listening. You can reach us on: Email: info@iamanovercomer.org.uk Website: www.iamanovercomer.org.uk Or find us on: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/msovercomer Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lynne-entwistle-7068b3200 Instagram: i…
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Conversation with Pete Baker
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Pete, a senior leader who although hasn't dealt with cases of domestic abuse is however, open and willing to learn, train and be equipped with how to best handle potential disclosures of abuse. Thank you for listening. You can reach us on: Email: info@iamanovercomer.org.uk Website: www.iamanovercomer.org.uk Or find us on: Facebook: https://www.face…
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Conversation with Press Red
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Sounding the alarm on violence against women and girls, Rose and Michelle upack the work of Press Red. They share how Press Red's preventative strategies equip the church to combat domestic abuse.. Thank you for listening. You can reach us on: Email: info@iamanovercomer.org.uk Website: www.iamanovercomer.org.uk Or find us on: Facebook: https://www.…
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Conversation with Craig Clark
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Craig Clark, senior leader of Brave Church in Oswaldtwistle, East Lancashire is one of a number of conscientious leaders who have chosen to speak up and stand against domestic abuse. Craig's previous role as a social worker enables him not to shy away from challenging issues such as domestic abuse. If you are affected by anyhting that's discussed i…
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Conversation with Anthony Delaney
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In this episode I am joined by Anthony Delaney, senior leader of Ivy Church Manchester, UK. Anthony's frank and open style of discussing the matter of domestic abuse provides a rich addition to the issue. His previous experience in the police force as well as his current role as a church leader provide a framework for addressing domestic abuse. Tha…
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This is a short introduction episode of Domestic Abuse Unchurched. This podcast was inspired by the need to help address the issue of domestic abuse in the church. I am joined by various senior church leaders and leaders of organisations that tackle the issue of violence against women, to talk about this issue of domestic abuse. Thank you for liste…
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Cycle Breaking Super Powers
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This episode features Dr. Michelle Finneran discussing why abusive patterns are repeated through generational trauma and how the mother/ daughter dynamic effects us when our mom suffers from abuse in front of us growing up. Individualization from family origin and being the cycle breaker is also discussed. For K & M❤️…
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S2 Ep2 -Zoe Dronfield :'Mind of Manipulators'
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A returning guest ,Zoe Dronfield , speaks to us about her journey of penning her lived experience of Domestic abuse in her book"Mind over Manipulators" , Family Court atrocities and a vital piece of work she is working on to help other victim/survivors recover and heal If you find need support please call : NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE 0808 200…
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Love Smart: Trust is earned not given
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Dr. Finneran, psychotherapist drops in as guest speaker to talk about Stockholm Syndrome, trauma bonding, getting proper support, and healing after abuse. Avoiding re-engaging in another abusive dynamic is also discussed.
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Voice of A Survivor - Pippa
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In this series, we are hearing direct from survivors who have experience abuse, in today's show I am talking to Pippa. Pippa lived in an abusive relationship for five years before escaping, taking 13 years to fully get her life back on track. Support the showKirjoittanut Natalie W
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I have a problem: are you ready to be done?
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This episode focuses on the different stages of leaving an abuser. How to grow strength to get through withdrawals, things you’ll need within your support system, and learning how to love yourself again are discussed.
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This episode focuses on gaining insight into how abusers use pity, guilt, and blame shifting to distract us from their hurtful behavior. Description of how we get to a point where we feel like we are the abusive partner, and chronically believe we are the cause and are responsible for the pain we experience with an abusive partner. How to trust you…
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The Challenge of Co-parenting
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You've been in a relationship for many years, many of which have been characterised by abuse. You have finally found the strength to leave and move on. Nevertheless, you must co-parent with the person who caused you so much pain and anguish. In today's episode, we discuss some essential tips for co-parenting with an abusive ex. Support the show…
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SEASON 2 : Episode 2 - St.Anne's Home for abused women and children
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https://gofund.me/eaf6aafd Today I speak with Joy Lange , the Director of St.Anne's Home , shelter for destitute ,abused and disadvantaged mother's and children where care and empowerment is in abundance . St.Anne's home is motivated by the principle empowerment and they do their best to enable distressed and disadvantaged women and their children …
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Relationship Bereavement
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We are discussing the different phases of breakup and how to deal with them. There are all these feelings of loss that women can't handle, and this can lead people to return to a relationship no matter how bad it is. Knowing and understanding the phases means you are more likely to successfully advance through each stage and not go back to an abuse…
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Affirmations and Self care
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After experiencing abuse, women often put themselves and their own self care last on their list of priories, especially when children are involved. The reality is, if you don't look after yourself and spend time on your positive inner voice, your ability to look after anyone else's needs is greatly reduced. In today's show, our special guest is Mic…
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Triangulation: But look how hard he’s fighting to keep me
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This episode focuses on the trauma bond formed from triangulation. How continuous cheating creates intermittent wounding and the effects of the “reuniting” stage. Abuser’s tactics to keep the victim in the relationship, blame shifting, and gas lighting are also discussed.
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The terms 'Narcissist' or 'Narcissism' is being used with increasing frequency in recent times. With guest and resident Relationship Councillor, Elaine Conway we discuss what the term really means, and whether women can have a successful relationship with someone who is on the narcissist spectrum. Support the show…
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I’m the Project. You’re not that special.
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This episode discusses what it feels like to leave psychologically when you’ve left an abuser physically. What it feels like to be completely done. What it feels like to be free. What it feels like to be me again.
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Voice of A Survivor - Diem Mooney
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In this series, we are hearing direct from survivors of abuse. Today's show we hear from Diem Mooney. Diem is a male survivor of abuse, from a relationship which lasted seven years. Diem found the courage to get out, with his young son, in 2019, we will hear about how Diem rebuilt his life and the advice he offers to others in the same situation. S…
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SEASON 2: ALISSA - LGBTQ guest speaker
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Alissa is my special guest on this first episode of Season 2 as promised . Alissa is a trans-women who has just recently come out , she is 25 years old . A child and adult victim/survivor of domestic abuse . Alissa is from Belgium but lives in Austria. Her heartbreaking struggles with childhood domestic abuse stretching far into her adulthood along…
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Sorry My Empowerment Irritates You
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This episode focuses on the long standing issue of abuse not being addressed in the world. Thoughts on how to respond to someone who doesn’t think you’ll be able to do anything about the silent issue that causes so many people to not fully live their life to full capacity. Contemplating pros and cons of taking legal action is also discussed.…
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Restraining Orders & Real Men
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This episode isn’t really about anything other than me providing explanation of how it feels to have to make a police report and ask for help. And the kind of people in the world who make things like this more bearable. For Tim and Jimmy.
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This episode discusses codependency recovery, psychological make up of character, personal boundaries, coping skills for going no contact, and why courage in the face of fear prevails.
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Employment and Constructive Dismissal
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Coming out of any relationship requires a period of readjustment, never more so than when the relationship has been characterised by abuse - the old principle of changing one thing at a time is more important now more than ever. In today's show we discuss the issue of constructive dismissal with Jessy Gomez, Jessy is studying for her Phd and workin…
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Romanticizing & Psychology of Abuse
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Why do I miss someone who hurts me so much? Why we romanticize our abusive relationship. Effects of childhood trauma, attachment style, and why we associate love with unhealthy things.
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Being Human: Not perfect, but it gets better.
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This episode focuses on taking ownership of one’s struggles and actions in the recovery process. Trying to stuff things down inside and drown out traumatic memories and feelings does not work. Being in the “I don’t know what else to try” stage.
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The Power of Me: Small, But Mighty
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This episode focuses on the progression of developing healthy self confidence, setting goals in healing, lowering anxiety and depression, and the 4 stages of healing from abuse: recognize, accept, rise above, model. How to reframe blame and navigate forgiveness safely. A crash course in how to feel better.…
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