57: External vs. Internal Validation – How to Build Lasting Self-Esteem

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Episode Summary:

Do you ever find yourself seeking approval from others to feel “good enough”? Whether it’s worrying about what people think of your parenting, your missionary’s success, or even your own emotions, external validation can be an exhausting cycle. In today’s episode, we’re talking about the difference between external validation and internal validation—and why shifting to internal validation is key to building unshakable self-esteem.

I’ll walk you through how to recognize when you’re relying on external validation, why it keeps us stuck, and four powerful steps to start validating yourself from within. This shift will not only help you feel more confident as a missionary mom but will also model healthy self-esteem for your missionary.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

✔️ The difference between external validation (seeking approval from others) and internal validation (approving of yourself).
✔️ Why relying on external validation keeps us stuck in people-pleasing and anxiety.
✔️ How to start defining your own success instead of waiting for others’ approval.
✔️ Four simple steps to build internal validation and lasting self-esteem.
✔️ How to help both yourself and your missionary navigate struggles without needing outside validation.

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