Why Do We Love the Way We Do? Attachment Styles (Part 1)

Off the Fence with Karen Covy: Mastering Decision Making, Divorce & More

Ever wonder why you chose the spouse that you did? Or why you and your spouse seem to be locked in the same dance – pushing each other’s buttons and arguing over the same things you’ve argued about 1000 times before?

In this podcast episode, Bev Mitelman, a certified attachment practitioner and founder of Securely Loved, discusses the profound impact our attachment style has on all of our future relationships.

Bev explains how our early relationships with our primary caregivers create lifelong patterns for how we give and receive love—and why understanding these patterns is key to building better connections. Relying on the work of Dr. Gabor Maté, Bev explores and explains our attachment styles, core wounds, and the pivotal choice each of us makes between maintaining an insecure attachment style that we may have picked up during our childhood and consciously growing into a secure attachment style that will help us create the healthy relationships we crave.

If you feel like it’s “Groundhog Day” in your intimate relationships, and you long to create a more secure and well-balanced bond, this podcast episode is for you.
About Bev
Prior to becoming a Certified Attachment Practitioner and founding Securely Loved, Bev was an Executive Leader, University Lecturer and published author, having obtained her Masters' Degree in 2006. She has dedicated her entire career (25+ years) working with adults in the realm of personal growth and professional development.

Bev specializes in attachment theory, as it relates to dating and relationships, LGBT+ communities, sexuality, childhood trauma, complex family dynamics, narcissistic abuse, and respectful parenting. She believes that radical honesty is the way to authentically connect with people, in a world where more and more of us are feeling isolated and disconnected.

Connect with Bev
You can connect with Bev on LinkedIn at Securely Loved and on Facebook at Securely Loved. You can follow Bev on Instagram at Securely_loved and on YouTube @SecurelyLoved. To find out more about Bev’s work visit her website at Securely Loved and book a 20 minute consult here.

Karen Covy is a Divorce Coach and Consultant, Lawyer, Author, and Speaker who is dedicated to helping people make the best decisions possible for themselves, their families, and their future - especially in stressful times. You can check out Karen's videos on YouTube.
You can connect with Karen on LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and on her own website at karencovy.com.

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1. Why Do We Love the Way We Do? Attachment Styles (Part 1) (00:00:00)

2. Attachment Theory (00:00:10)

3. Attachment Spectrum and Core Wounds (00:19:11)

4. Insecure Attachment Styles and Core Wounds (00:24:19)