Tommi Vincent — I Am More Than Enough: Surviving Abuse, Breaking Cycles and Shattering Stereotypes.

Rebirth With J.R. Martinez

Tommi Vincent is a chef, motivational speaker, entrepreneur, and writer best known as the matriarch of VINCENT COUNTRY, a lifestyle movement created to inspire, uplift and reflect positive family images. She is also the wife of Troy Vincent, Executive Vice President of NFL Football Operations and former All-Pro NFL cornerback. Tommi has built an exemplary family and diverse career around faith-filled leadership and community development. However, before she met her husband of over 25 years, Tommi grew up believing domestic violence was just an acceptable way of life. It wasn’t until she almost lost her life that she had to realize the patterns in her life weren’t serving her. Committed to eradicating domestic violence through awareness, prevention, and education, Tommi sits on the Board of the National Domestic Violence Hotline. In this episode, Tommi shares her powerful journey of strength, struggle and breaking the cycle of abuse. She also shares some invaluable insight into the mindset of an abuse victim and ways we can all help.

Key Takeaways

• Don’t let people’s expectations define your ambitions and goals.
• Tommi and her husband make sure that their children know they can be their own self-advocates.
• Tommi shares a time where she was first exposed to domestic violence. “When it’s all you know, you think it’s normal.”
• Tommi’s ex tried to throw her off a bridge. That’s when she knew her life was meant for so much more.
• “A healthy relationship has to start with yourself first”.
• What should you do if you know someone in an abusive relationship?
• It’s easy to say ‘what you’d do’ if you were put in an abusive situation, but not everyone is like you.
• Where’s the balance between trying to jump in and help someone vs. letting them make their own mistakes?
• Tommi had to relearn how to communicate in a healthy way.
• How did Tommi and Troy break their unhealthy communication patterns?
• If you want to experience love on another level with your spouse, you have to be vulnerable.
• Tommi was 38 when she went to counseling. It’s a lifelong process.
• Children learn what they can be by what they see.
• When should you talk to children about domestic violence?
• You are uniquely made and created. No one can replace you.

Continue On Your Journey

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