Adoptive parents are more than aware that their child has suffered great loss in relinquishment, and they long to create a haven of love for their child. However, many times, the adopted child pushes love away. This can be because of RAD and the trauma that keeps hijacking the child’s brain. Some children don’t exhibit pushback behavior until their teen years or when they are searching for their biological roots. Adoptive parents must prepare themselves for this possibility by hearing the st ...
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Dafna Lender, LCSW, Explains Why RAD Diagnosis Is Outdated
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Dafna Lender, LCSW, is a Licensed Social Worker and Certified Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapist. Experts such as Besssel van der Koklk applaud her work. When Sherrie Eldridge asks her about the term "Reactive Attachment Disorder," quite the conversation occurred. Sherrie shared her story of how she has recovered from this, and Dafna taught in de…
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Author Keri Williams Addresses Reactive Attachment Disorder
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In this episode, I talk with award-winning author and advocate, Keri Williams, about her two-decade journey as a foster and adoptive parent, highlighting the challenges of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). Keri shares her personal adoption experiences and the behavioral challenges she faced. She discusses navigating mental health systems, societa…
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Author Karen Springs Encourages Parents Who Adopted Children Internationally
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Karen Springs provides cutting-edge research about how adoptive families wit kids adopted from overseas have progressed. In her new book—THE BACKSEAT OF ADOPTION, she shares How the families she worked with in Europe are currently progressing. Are the children thriving? Are the parents thriving? What are the joys of parenting? What are common obsta…
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Adoptee Julie Ryan McGue's Search for Origins
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What could be more exciting than to be an adopted person and find the family that you never knew existed? All Rights Reserved. @sherrieeldridgeKirjoittanut Sherrie Eldridge
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Navigating Adoptee Birthdays
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Hi, my friends. Well, we're going to visit the subject of adoptee birthdays again today. I just recently had one. I'm well into my seventh decade of life, and I look back and I realize that there are so many things that I couldn't say or explain. About adoptee birthdays in my younger years, but I'd just kinda like to share with you the new thoughts…
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Sherrie Encourages Younger Fellow-Adopted Children
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Sometimes, adopted children get discouraged about numerous meltdowns and need encouragement from someone who's been there--author Sherrie Eldridge. Eldridge crafted this short message just for the children by sharing the reason for meltdowns, which is trauma. Children are taught that because of the repercussions of trauma, oftentimes love from othe…
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Susan Tebos Shares Book for Adopted Teens
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And I'm very excited about this guest that's going to be talking with me during the next segment. It is Susan Tebows, who is the author of, we've Been There, true Stories, surprising Insights, and Aha Moments for Adopted Teens. Susan is a writer, speaker, bible study leader and adoptive mom. And she's got such a heart for adoptees. I was so taken b…
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Dafna Lender LCSW, Describes Adoptee Loss
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Teen and adult adoptees will be encouraged by such a gifted therapist as Dafna Lender LCSW. Dafna shares initially how her upbringing challenged her to be a voice for those that have no voice. Hearing her validation of the adoptee loss is moving and will bless the heart of every adoptee that listens. Additionally, Lender addresses the need of adopt…
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Ron Nydam Ph.D. Revisits Adoption and Relinquishment
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Ron Nydam, Ph.D., is a highly respected and beloved pastor, speaker, author, counselor, and teacher in the field of adoption. For the last two decades, he educated international audiences about relinquishment and adoption. These two topics are his specialty and he addresses them with the finesse of a skilled surgeon. His main audiences are: Adoptee…
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Derek Clark Urges Fostered Teens to Never Give Up
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Derek Clark’s life is one of resilience and redemption. As a child he suffered unthinkable child abuse, abandonment and emotional distress before being turned over to the psychiatric hospital at age five. His 13 years in the San Francisco bay area foster care system reflected an early life of humiliation, aggression, emotional distress, overwhelmin…
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The Hot Potato of Adoptee Anger
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Bronwen interviews Sherrie on a rare topic--adoptee anger. They discuss the two kinds of anger and emphasize the fact that anger itself is good--its a God-given emotion that warns us if something is wrong, like the red light on a dashboard. Anger can become toxic when anger is stuffed and turns into bitterness and hate. The unintentional adversaria…
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One Mom's Story about Adopting Internationally
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Bronwen Smith, a mom who adopted from Korea, shares the real-life struggles and joys of adopting internationally. Learn how she and her husband decided to adopt, how they chose the country to adopt from, what it was like to take off in the plane with the knowledge that their son was leaving his entire home behind, and how they juggle joy and peace …
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The Trauma Wound of Adoptive and Foster Moms
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Not only must adoptive and foster moms understand the depth of their child’s pre-adoption pain, but also their own trauma wound. “What wound?” they may say. “My child is the one with the deep wound, not me. Don’t be ridiculous.” Adoptive moms may be offended or defensive when told they have a trauma wound. Adoptive mom says—I think many people can …
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Adopted Kids May See Adoptive Mom As An Enemy
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Sometimes, adopted kids see their adoptive moms as an enemy. Does that mean there's something wrong with them? Bad genes? Bad character? A million times, no! Adoptees have been deeply wounded, first through the loss of their first mothers, and second, by being placed into the arms of strangers. Learn four reasons adoptees see their moms like this a…
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What Kind of Love Adoptees Really Need
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This podcast reveals how adoption's parent/child relationships oftentimes become strained and explains that the strain is not the fault of parent nor child. Five adoptive moms give real-life examples of strain. Sherrie Eldridge reveals the greatest gift parents can give their kids in every situation--the gift of a non-abandoning heart. The pre-requ…
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Preparing for Adoptee Push Back
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Relationships between adoptive moms and their kids will involve more stress than bio kids and parents. If an adoptive mother isn't educated about this reality, she may conclude that her parenting is inferior--"I thought it was me and my inability to nurture and support them properly." Sherrie Eldridge proposes a bootcamp within her new book that wo…
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There are many adoptive parents whose adopted children can't receive their love. If we liken it to a dance, the adopted child may delight in stepping on the parent's toes. Sherrie Eldridge explains why this happens from an adoptee perspective, as well as sharing adoptive parent thoughts about the rejection they experience. Hopefully, parents will c…
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Junk Transforms to Treasure
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Podcast #2 Many adoptees and foster children haven't been told that it's possible to find freedom from their painful past. Sherrie reviews the literature that's been available, especially that of Nancy Verrier's THE PRIMAL WOUND. The case is made that in physical healing, validation of the wound is just the beginning. Most adoptees want more--more …
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Sherrie Eldridge introduces herself as a veteran adoptee and adoption author, but enthusiastically invites adoptive, birth, foster, step parents and her fellow adoptees to join her in discovering wonderful new research and experience in the world of adoption: 1. The child's brain records parental acts of love even though child's level of receptivit…
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