Ep #67 The Parent Trap: Breaking Free From Corrective Indulgences

Connect Method Parenting I Conscious Parenting, Positive Parenting, Gentle Parenting, Connective Parenting, Peaceful Parenting, Slow Parenting, Parenting Teens, Single Parenting, Joyful Parenting, Positive Discipline, ADHD Parenting

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Pushing Past Stagnation & Business Plateaus 30:21

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Hitting plateaus is a common milestone in business, but there’s a difference between stability and a rut. In the last installment of this season, we’ll dive into the ways small business owners push beyond plateaus and find new ways to achieve revenue growth. Jannese and Austin wrap up their time in Nashville, Tennessee with a wonderful visit to N.B. Goods to speak with owner Camille Alston . Camille details the times where she hit a wall with profits, the strategies she implemented to increase revenue, what worked, what didn’t, and the important lessons she learned in the process. You won’t want to miss this informative final chapter! Learn more about how QuickBooks can help you grow your business: QuickBooks.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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The relationship is where parenting is at! NOT discipline.

That's why today I'm...

Teaching you how to do "connection reps," simple two-minute exercises that help you stay grounded and connected with yourself and your children.
Diving into your most common thoughts when your kids have cray cray behavior. So you can release and replace them with something better.
Unpacking Connective Action Cycles.
AND diving into the difference between indulgent vs productive emotions.

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Ep #67 The Parent Trap: Breaking Free From Corrective Indulgences

Connect Method Parenting I Conscious Parenting, Positive Parenting, Gentle Parenting, Connective Parenting, Peaceful Parenting, Slow Parenting, Parenting Teens, Single Parenting, Joyful Parenting, Positive Discipline, ADHD Parenting

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The relationship is where parenting is at! NOT discipline.

That's why today I'm...

Teaching you how to do "connection reps," simple two-minute exercises that help you stay grounded and connected with yourself and your children.
Diving into your most common thoughts when your kids have cray cray behavior. So you can release and replace them with something better.
Unpacking Connective Action Cycles.
AND diving into the difference between indulgent vs productive emotions.

Share it with a friend and discuss it together! Let's gooo!!

Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast

My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs

My IG: https://cmp.works/ista

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Ep #142 Red Flags, Deal Breakers & Non-Negotiables: Your Ultimate Tolerance Guide 57:14

3 päivää sitten57:14

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In today's episode of the Connect Method Parenting Podcast, I'm diving headfirst into the messy, confusing, absolutely necessary world of figuring out what to tolerate in your relationships with your kids (and honestly, everyone else in your life). Because let's face it - we're all walking that tightrope between doormat and dictator DAILY. Here's what we're unpacking today: • The "Compassionate Alpha" approach - that magical middle ground between permissive pushover and authoritarian tyrant (spoiler alert: both extremes come from the same place of fear!) • My "Seen and Heard Sandwich" framework that starts with Connection and ends with Bridge - your step-by-step guide for handling everything from epic Target checkout meltdowns to homework battles • Why "accepting" your child's behavior is NOT the same as "condoning" it (say it with me, people!) • The traffic circle of frustration (thanks Dr. Neufeld!) and why our job isn't to punish the attacking energy but to help our kids move from mad to sad • My embarrassingly real Target story involving two toddlers , a public meltdown, and a stranger's birth control commentary (I literally abandoned my cart and fled) • The mind-blowing concept that "their behavior is information" - they're not trying to ruin your life, they're communicating something! Remember: You teach people how to treat you by what you tolerate. But tolerating your child's emotions doesn't mean letting go of boundaries - it means showing up with both compassion AND firmness. Whether you're dealing with eye-rolling teens or cookie-demanding toddlers, this episode is your permission slip to stop trying to "win" the power struggle and start winning the relationship instead. DM on IG @connectmethodparenting about YOUR tolerance dilemmas - I read every single one while contemplating whether I should have that last cookie in my fridge (Dollar Cookie Day, you are my weakness!). Stay boundaried but beautiful! xo Andee Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista…

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Ep #141 Not Just About the Dishes: How Hidden Thoughts Hijack Your Parenting 37:22

6 päivää sitten37:22

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Ever send a text you regretted THE SECOND your thumb hit "send"? 🙋‍♀️ Just had one of those mom-text moments that made my stomach do that "oh no" flip. You know the one! Today I'm spilling about a moment (spoiler: it involved a car that looked like a convenience store had exploded inside it) and the thought-work rabbit hole I tumbled down afterward. The Mom-Brain Meltdown We just returned from our 6-month family adventure, and suddenly we're back to normal life. The house was a disaster, I was a walking jet lag zombie, and then I found THE CAR. 🤯 Cue text message that basically said "I guess no one cares about cleaning up" (with extra mom-sass). And then... that sinking feeling hit. The Secret Thoughts My brain was secretly thinking: "I shouldn't have to deal with this after coming home from a trip." "My teenagers are TOTALLY taking advantage of me." "They don't respect me/our home/our car" "I'm failing at teaching responsibility." Sound familiar? Please tell me I'm not alone! 🙏 Your Brain: Basically a Junk Drawer These thoughts were building up like that kitchen junk drawer we all have. You know, the one where you toss random stuff until one day you desperately need something in it and you can't find it??!!! The Five Thought-Error Styles The Catastrophizer : "If my child doesn't learn this now, they'll live in my basement forever." The Comparer : "Kim's kids would NEVER leave a mess like this." (They absolutely do.) The Crystal Ball Reader : "This behavior means my child is definitely going to end up like my weird uncle." The Mind Reader : "My child KNOWS this drives me crazy and is doing it to push my buttons." The Personalizer : "This messy room is a billboard announcing my failure as a parent." Thought-Catching Tools Daily Thought Download : 5 minutes of word-vomiting all your parenting thoughts onto paper. Trigger Tracker : When eye-twitchy parent rage builds, write down the facts, your thoughts, feelings, actions, and the mess they created. Thought Swap : Try different thoughts like you're in a mental changing room. Reality Check : Ask, "Is this thought 100% true, or am I being dramatic?" Future Self Question : "What would wise, gray-haired future-me think about this?" Your Homework This week, become a thought detective. Those annoying thoughts? They're leaving clues EVERYWHERE. Catch them before they turn you into a passive-aggressive texting monster. When you notice a thought that doesn't feel good, write it down and decide if it's helping you be the parent your kid needs. Choose thoughts that feel true AND helpful. Not "I LOVE crusty dishes!" but maybe "This is normal teenage behavior, not a personal attack." Final Thoughts Finding and owning your thoughts isn't about becoming a perfect parent with perfect thoughts. It's about catching yourself before you spiral and remembering that your thoughts create your reality. If you've got your own "I can't believe I said that" moment, a question, or you'd love me to cover a topic on the podcast, slide into my DMs on Instagram @connectmethodparenting! And if this episode saved you from sending your own regrettable message, show a girl some love and leave a review! ⭐ Until next time: connection before correction (and maybe put a delay on your text messages 😉). Byeeee! 💕 Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista…

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Ep #140 The SEE-quel: How Understanding Replaced Fixing in My Parenting OS 39:01

10 päivää sitten39:01

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So here's the deal—I've been low-key obsessed with creating this geeky-but-life-changing episode about the SEEing Framework that has COMPLETELY rewired how I parent. And listen, when you've had six kids in eight years like I have, you need all the mental frameworks you can get! Here's the mind-blowing data point that sent me down this rabbit hole: Dr. Neufeld's research shows that 95% (!!!) of kids' problem behaviors were never actually intended. NINETY-FIVE PERCENT, people! I used to be the correction queen, y'all. I had more sticker charts than Target's office supply section. In this episode, I break down my SEEing Framework that's basically the ultimate parent hack: 🤓 S - See the Other Person (not just their behavior) 🤓 E - Emotions are data, not disasters! 🤓 E - Engage before directing (connection before correction) 🤓 I - Investigate with curiosity (be a behavior detective!) 🤓 N - Neuroscience supports this! (I get nerdy with brain facts!) 🤓 G - Growth happens in relationship (mind = blown) Years ago my daughter was having this EPIC bedtime resistance campaign that would impress military strategists. Old me would have gone straight to consequences. New SEEing Framework me discovered she was actually having scary thoughts and feeling unsafe! The moment I shifted from "WHY WON'T YOU JUST GO TO BED ALREADY?!" to "Oh wait, what message is this behavior sending?" everything changed. If you're like "This sounds amazing, but HOW do I do this when my kid is having a Target floor tantrum and strangers are staring at me like I'm starring in my own reality show called 'Parenthood: The Unhinged Years'?"—I've got you covered with practical steps! If this episode helps you see your child differently, even ONCE, please share it with another parent! And if you have three seconds, smash that subscribe button or leave a review! Stay curious!! xoAndee P.S. What if I told you that tomorrow, instead of trying to correct your child, you just tried to SEE them? Mind-blowing, right? Try it and DM me on IG @connectmethodparenting and lmk how it goes. Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista…

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Ep #139 The Acceptance Shift Model 26:33

13 päivää sitten26:33

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Today, we're diving into something that's been buzzing in my mind lately—what I call The Acceptance Shift Model . This isn’t just a concept I teach; it’s something I’ve lived through in my own parenting journey. And let me tell you—it changes everything. Here’s the truth bomb: When we argue against reality, we lose 100% of the time. Acceptance gets a bad rap. A lot of us think it means giving up, being passive, or saying, “Sure, just keep tantruming forever.” But nope. That’s not it at all. True acceptance is one of the most active, intentional shifts we can make as parents. In this episode, I share: A dinner-date disaster turned transformational moment (yes, I literally covered my mouth mid-convo 😅) How acceptance rewires your brain and calms your nervous system so you can actually think clearly again Why the “A” in my PEACE Process (Allow/Accept) is the hardest—but most transformative—step What really happens when we feel our emotions (instead of overthinking them) Stories from Viktor Frankl, Nelson Mandela, and Stephen Hawking that show what powerful acceptance can look like in the most extreme human conditions I’m also giving you six practical steps you can start using today to build your “acceptance muscle.” Think of it like emotional strength training—the more you practice, the more powerful your calm becomes. Yes, acceptance takes effort—sometimes messy, soul-searching, deep-breathing effort. But it’s the kind of effort that creates real change: ✨ More connection. ✨ Less chaos. ✨ A deeper relationship with your child—and yourself. Remember : You already have everything you need inside you. This work is just peeling back the layers so you can show up as the calm, clear, connected parent you truly are. Until next time, keep connecting 💛 —Andee P.S. If you’ve ever preferred shocking yourself with electricity over sitting quietly with your feelings (yes, that’s a real study!), you are exactly who this episode is for. 😉 Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista…

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Ep #138 The Reboot: 2 days. 1 plan. 0 judgment = transformation 17:28

16 päivää sitten17:28

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From desperate bathroom floor journaling to parenting transformation - this is the system that saved my sanity... So here's the scene: Me, sliding down my bathroom door, desperately clutching a journal, trying not to ugly-cry because bedtime felt like scaling Mount Everest in flip-flops. Been there? That rock-bottom moment? TOTAL GAME-CHANGER. I started asking myself three stupidly simple questions: What worked today? (took me like 20 minutes to find ANYTHING 🙈) What didn't work? (umm, where to start?!) What's ONE thing I can do differently tomorrow? These questions became my daily "reboot" ritual. Then, weekly check-ins. Then SEASONAL resets. And slowly things began to shift for me. THE BIG NEWS I'M LITERALLY BURSTING TO SHARE! I'm hosting my first-ever public QUARTERLY REBOOT WORKSHOP! April 10-11, noon Eastern Two days that will transform your next 90 days Just $7 for non-League members (I know, that's basically one fancy coffee... my husband thinks I'm crazy but THIS IS MY MISSION!) What We're Doing Together: Day 1: REFLECT - We'll dive deep into what's working, what's not, and why. We'll identify your personal parenting triggers and do this incredible exercise I call "Reverse Engineering Your Reactions" Day 2: RESET & RISE - I'll help you set your 90-day parenting vision (that actually FEELS possible), and create your personalized RISE UP plan that won't overwhelm you! Plus, you'll get my "Parenting Pivot Protocol" - because let's be real, things get messy and we need a backup plan for when life throws curveballs at our beautiful intentions. Imagine breaking your year into 90-day chunks. It's like getting FOUR FRESH STARTS every single year! Who doesn't need that in parenthood?! If you're in League already, you're automatically IN (yay you!). If not, join me at https://cmp.works/3ea714 Because you don't need to wait until January 1st to become the parent you want to be. You just need 90 days and someone who's been there (🙋‍♀️) to show you how. Can't WAIT to reboot with you! xo, Andee Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista…

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Ep #137 The Three Mistakes That Destroy Connection: Stop Should-ing Your Kids 49:14

17 päivää sitten49:14

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I recorded this as part of a five-day training I did for my League of Extraordinarily Connected Parents (which, by the way, is the BEST group of humans ever), and halfway through planning it, I thought, "Wait! EVERYONE needs to hear this!" What You're About to Discover: I'm spilling ALL the tea about the three MASSIVE mistakes I used to make as a parent (and sometimes still catch myself making because, hello, I'm human!). These are the sneaky little thought patterns that absolutely DESTROY our connection with our kids: The "Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda" Complex – Oh my goodness, I was QUEEN of this one! That mental loop of "they should have known better" or "they could have done this differently" that runs through our heads? It triggers our kids' nervous systems INSTANTLY. I share a story about getting pulled over by a police officer who taught me the most incredible lesson about setting boundaries without shame. Game. Changer. The "Please Just Listen!" Desperate Energy – Remember when my kids were little and I'd literally cross my fingers hoping they'd cooperate that day? That graspy, needy energy is REPELLING our kids! I share this wild story about a street performer who attracted HUNDREDS of people without begging anyone to listen. What if we could parent like THAT? The "I Can't Figure This Out" Self-Doubt Spiral – This one hits deep. That voice that says it's too late, we're not patient enough, we can't change? It's a LIE. I unpacked what true self-confidence really means (hint: it's not what you think!). Here's the crazy part – I didn't even realize how these thought patterns were RUNNING MY LIFE as a parent until I started questioning them. Our thoughts create our emotions, which fuel our actions... and then we wonder why we keep getting the same frustrating results! I challenge you to ask yourself: Where am I "shoulding" my kids today? Where am I being graspy and desperate for cooperation? Where do I doubt my ability to change? Connection over correction, always. ❤️ Let's do this parenting thing differently, Andee Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista…

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Ep #136 When Your Child Says 'I Hate You': The Surprising Path to Deeper Connection 34:51

20 päivää sitten34:51

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So you know that gut-punch feeling when someone says they don't like you? Or when your sweet little angel screams "I HATE YOU!" during a tantrum? Talk about emotional whiplash! Today I'm diving into this ultra-relatable parenting challenge in this episode, and trust me - it's the pep talk we all desperately need. What You'll Discover in This Episode Why someone saying they hate you is actually NEUTRAL until you decide what it means (mind=officially blown, right?!) The exact thought patterns that turn your kid's tantrum words into your emotional meltdown (spoiler: we're doing it to ourselves, guys!) My embarrassingly real story about former friends who—quite literally—couldn't stand me anymore (and how it transformed me from a people-pleasing pretzel into the parent I am today) The STEER method that will SAVE YOUR SANITY the next time your sweet angel looks you dead in the eyes and says they wish they had a different mom (been there, bought the t-shirt!) Episode Highlights [00:02:30] My humbling journey through friendship breakups and what they taught me about unconditional love (it was the BEST awful experience of my life!) [00:08:45] The life-changing realization: someone saying "I hate you" is just... words. That's it! (Mind. Blown.) [00:13:20] Why your kids are 100% allowed to have their opinions about your parenting—even when those opinions make you want to hide in the pantry with chocolate [00:17:40] How to use STEAR when your 8-year-old is staging a full rebellion against bedtime (complete with dramatic declarations about your parenting abilities!) [00:22:15] The secret science of mirror neurons and why you FEEL your kid's emotions (but don't actually have to absorb them—hallelujah!) [00:27:50] The counterintuitive trick: feeling COMPASSION for your tiny dictator when they're mid-meltdown (sounds impossible—I promise it's not!) [00:32:10] The ultimate parenting superpower: being totally okay when your decisions make your kids temporarily despise you Connect Method Parenting FTW When your child screams "I HATE YOU!" during a tantrum, it's not actually about you. It's about THEM and their big feelings that they don't know how to handle yet. But here's the magic: when you stay regulated instead of diving into the emotional dumpster fire with them, you're teaching them something INCREDIBLE about emotional regulation. Remember: The moments when your child likes you least are often the moments they NEED you most! ❤️ 💡 Truth Bomb : "The less you fear being disliked, the more freely you'll show up as your best self, which will change the way you parent and the way you're able to show up for your child when they're completely dysregulated." I want to hear from YOU! DM on IG (@connectmethodparenting) and tell me about your "I hate you" moments—how did you handle it? What worked? Sending you mountains of love and patience, Andee Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista…

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Ep #135 The Lovability Principle: Why You’re Worthy Without Conditions 31:03

24 päivää sitten31:03

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Ever catch yourself thinking about what LOVE really means in our parenting journey? Because WOW - I had so many thoughts swirling around this week that I just HAD to share with you all! In this episode, I'm diving DEEP into unconditional love and lovability (and trust me, this one's a game-changer for both you AND your kiddos). What We're Unpacking Today: Why love is ALWAYS the best option (and feels SO much better than frustration!) The mind-blowing truth: your lovability is ABSOLUTE (not dependent on anyone else!) My step-by-step framework for having those tricky conversations without everyone melting down The surprising connection between loving others unconditionally and finally loving YOURSELF Why it's not our children's job to make us feel good (this one hit me like a ton of bricks when I first realized it!) My Favorite Moment From This Episode: "If I have to choose between feeling frustrated or loving, loving feels SO much better. Learning how to choose that intentionally is everything." Remember when I talked about that lightbulb moment I had lying in bed? "You can either be right or you can love. You really can't do both right now." That changed EVERYTHING for me! The Connect Method Way: Drop into curiosity instead of criticism (game-changer!) Focus on understanding, not being right Create safety in YOUR nervous system first Get clear on just the facts everyone can agree on Identify what you're both making those facts mean Brainstorm solutions together without rehashing the problem Here's the beautiful truth: Your relationship with your child is simply your thoughts about them. That's it! And YOU get to choose those thoughts! How powerful is that?! 💪 Remember, love is a SKILL we're developing. It takes practice, and that's exactly what we're here for. Can't wait to hear how this resonates with you! Love and connection, Andee 💕 PS - If something from today's episode sparked something for you, use that as your focus for the week ahead. Small shifts create BIG ripples! Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista…

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Ep #134 Encountering Futility: Why It’s Life-Changing (Even If It Sounds Depressing!) 51:00

27 päivää sitten51:00

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So today's episode is ALL about a concept that might sound super depressing at first glance, but is actually one of the most powerful tools we have for emotional growth. I'm talking about encountering futility - yep, that word you probably haven't tossed around since your college philosophy class (if ever)! What Is Futility Anyway? 🤔 Futility is when we're up against something we literally CANNOT change. You know that feeling of figuratively banging your head against the wall? That's it! Think: Your toddler flailing on the floor because you won't give them a cookie Your teenager giving you death glares because you set a phone curfew Not making the team or getting invited to the party Missing an important call (more on my personal meltdown about this later!) The word actually comes from Latin "futilis" meaning leaky, vain, or useless - like a vessel that can't hold water. How perfect is that? Because when we encounter futility, we often "leak" tears as we process those emotions! Why Encountering Futility Is Actually AMAZING ✨ Here's the wild part - every time we go up against something we cannot change, we're given this incredible opportunity for growth. When we allow ourselves to feel the emotions instead of fighting them, our brains literally change! We become more emotionally mature. The science shows that when we go from "mad to sad" (Dr. Neufeld's brilliant phrase), our nervous system logs this experience as safe, and our emotional capacity increases. It happens spontaneously - we don't have to consciously try to grow emotionally. It just happens when we create the right conditions! The Mad-to-Sad Journey 🛣️ The magical transformation happens when we: Stop resisting or fighting against the unchangeable situation Allow ourselves to feel the disappointment/sadness/grief Surrender to what is And guess what? Those tears of sadness are actually different chemically from angry tears - they contain stress hormones that we're literally crying out of our bodies! (How cool is THAT?!) My Personal Futility Meltdown in New Zealand 😭 I had this intense experience last month in New Zealand. My son Cooper is living in Chile having some really challenging experiences, and we had this important scheduled call. But because of the time difference, travel, and my notifications being off, I MISSED IT. I completely lost it when I realized I wouldn't be able to talk to him for another week. I sobbed for hours (yes, HOURS) on the couch, surrendering to this situation I couldn't change. And then something magical happened - I felt this incredible shift inside me. The resilience that followed was palpable. I actually wrote a poem about the experience (which I shared in the episode - it's not winning any awards but it captures the journey!). How to Create Your Own Futility Encounters 🗓️ You don't have to wait for life to throw futility your way - you can actually schedule these encounters! Remember that beautiful scene from "Shrinking" where Jimmy and Alice sit on a park bench with headphones, listening to music and crying together over their loss? THAT'S encountering futility intentionally! Here's your homework this week: Prepare a "futility playlist" - songs that bring up emotions for you (mine is Rachmaninoff's Piano Concerto No. 2) Find movies that reliably make you cry (I love "About Time" - watch it every year!) When you feel emotions building up, schedule time to feel them completely Remem Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista…

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Ep #133 The Baby Powder Blizzard: How I Stopped Yelling and Started Connecting 40:06

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Remember my infamous "baby powder blizzard of 2007"? That moment when my toddlers created what felt like the apocalypse in our playroom, and somehow—miraculously—I didn't lose my mind? That was my pivot point, and I'm sharing exactly how you can create these pivots in your own parenting journey. What You'll Learn: Why the traditional "correction" approach to parenting backfires (even positive rewards can dampen intrinsic motivation!) The mindset shift from being a "sculptor" of your children to being their "gardener" My 5-step process to transform your parenting style and create lasting connection How to understand your own mind and identify the thought patterns sabotaging your parenting The science behind why consequences don't work (and what actually does) Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista…

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Ep #132 Regret Growth 24:35

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In this episode, we're exploring the concept of "Regret Growth" - a transformative approach to handling those moments of parental regret that so many of us experience. Key Takeaways: Regret Growth vs. Regret Spiral : Discover the crucial difference between using regret as a catalyst for positive change versus getting trapped in cycles of shame and self-judgment Why most regret is unproductive : Learn why dwelling on past mistakes rarely leads to meaningful growth and often keeps us stuck The three-step Regret Growth cycle : Awareness : Acknowledging the ping of regret without judgment Acceptance : Understanding you were doing your best with what you had in that moment Accountability : Taking responsibility and creating a plan to do better next time The Regret Forecast : A powerful exercise to imagine what you might regret 10 years from now, helping you prioritize what truly matters today Why growth doesn't come from guilt : Understanding that beating yourself up over past parenting moments doesn't lead to positive change Powerful Quotes: "A man is not old until regret takes the place of dreams." - John Barry Moore "Growth doesn't come from guilt. It comes from choosing to move forward with intention." "Let your past mistakes inform you of how to do better. But never let your past mistakes define you." This episode is perfect for any parent who has ever found themselves ruminating over a difficult moment with their child, wishing they could go back and handle it differently. Turn those moments of regret into opportunities for profound personal growth! Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista…

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Ep #131 The Failure Feedback Loop: How to Parent Smarter, Not Stricter 23:09

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In this juicy episode, I am spilling ALL the tea about why failure isn't just normal—it's your secret parenting superpower! 💪 Think about it: Michael Jordan missed 9,000+ shots and Ed Sheeran was once a super awkward teen musician (he showed the receipts and everything!). Their "secret"? They didn't avoid failure—they COLLECTED it like badges of honor! I'm breaking down my game-changing "Five E's" formula that transforms those epic parenting face-plants into golden growth opportunities: • Energy (showing up 100%) • Effort (going all-in) • Ending power (sticking through the hard stuff) • Evaluation (learning from every no) • Emotional presence (bringing your whole self) And I share the absolutely LIFE-CHANGING advice I gave my son while he's out there getting doors slammed in his face selling pest control. Turns out, every "no" is just collecting evidence that you're getting closer to your "yes"! (Mind = blown, right?!) So next time your toddler throws spaghetti across the room or your teen gives you The Eye Roll™, don't beat yourself up! You're not failing at parenting—you're actually building your parenting muscles through productive failure. Ready to start collecting productive failures? I dare you to track 100 this month! (And yes, small ones totally count!) Let's ditch the perfectionist thinking and get EXCITED about our fails, friend. Because that's where the magic happens! ✨ Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista…

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Ep #130 The Awareness, Allowing, Wisdom Process 1:01:56

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Hey there, amazing parents!!! Today's episode is ALL about the transformative power of the awareness, allowing, and wisdom process. I'm walking you through my signature STEAR and PEACE processes that have helped thousands of parents shift from correction-based to connection-based parenting. It's not about being perfect—it's about being present and compassionate with yourself first. Episode Highlights: STEAR Recap : How our thoughts about situations create our emotions, actions, and ultimately our results The Power of Awareness : Why looking at your thoughts is the essential first step to changing anything in your life The Art of Allowing : Why most of us rush to change our thoughts before we've fully allowed and processed our emotions Wisdom-Based Change : How to make changes from a place of peace rather than panic The Compassionate Witness : Becoming the observer of your thoughts instead of being identified with them Remember, lovelies: you can't skip the ALLOW step! That's where all the magic happens. And yes, it's the hardest part because it means FEELING those uncomfortable emotions. But trust me—I've been there, done that, got the T-shirt—it's worth it. Sending you so much love and support on your parenting journey! ✨ xoAndee Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista…

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Ep #129 Parenting: The Job Where Everyone Thinks You're Doing It Wrong 40:54

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Let's get real for a hot second—ever feel like parenting is just one giant tug-of-war? (And somehow you're ALWAYS the one about to face-plant into the mud puddle, am I right?!) In today's episode, I'm diving into my "Dream Relationship Strategy" – the exact framework I've used to transform my relationships with my kids (including my son who's turning 24 this year—which is WILD because I'm pretty sure I'm still 24 myself! 🤪). What You'll Learn: Why your brain is literally the command center of your parenting (yes, everything starts RIGHT there!) How those sneaky thoughts like "nothing will ever get better" are totally sabotaging your connection with your kids The mind-blowing reframe that turns "my kid is SO frustrating" into "my child is doing the hard work of growing up" (game-changer alert! 🚨) Why Indigenous cultures have been nailing this whole parenting thing while many of us are still struggling with outdated strategies My Favorite Quotes From This Episode: "All of those external tools that I depended on for years, it was better for me to parent without them." "My child is doing the hard work of growing up. I'm honored to be here to help." "Connection teaches more than consequences." Your Homework Assignment (because growth doesn't happen by accident!): Identify one sticky situation where your relationship feels strained Write down ALL your thoughts about it (yes, even the judgmental ones we all have!) Thank your nervous system for trying to protect you (because even those triggered reactions are trying to help!) Create new, empowering thoughts to replace the draining ones Practice visualizing yourself believing these new thoughts Remember: You're not just studying for a test here—you're rehearsing for the role of a lifetime as the parent your kids actually WANT in their corner! Want to become the parent your kids call when they're 25 with GOOD news, not just when their car breaks down? This episode is your roadmap! Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista…

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Ep #128 Why 'BEING' Trumps 'Doing' in Parenting (And Most Parents Get This Backwards) 59:49

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So there I was, wide awake at 5:15 AM in FREAKING NEW ZEALAND (yes, we're still traveling—more on that later!) with this message practically BURSTING out of me. My body was like, "Andee, get up RIGHT NOW and talk to your people!" So here I am, messy bun and all, coming in hot with some truth bombs about parenting that literally changed my entire life. The Big Juicy Secret I Can't Keep Anymore: Who you're BEING matters waaaaay more than what you're DOING as a parent. Think about it—you could say "time to wake up" with the exact same words but completely different energy: Option A: Frazzled, irritated, rushing (we've ALL been there) Option B: Grounded, present, compassionate Same words, totally different result! And guess what? Your kids have these amazing things called mirror neurons that pick up your emotional vibe INSTANTLY. They're like little emotional WiFi receivers! 📡 Real Talk Moment: Remember when I was first shifting my parenting and thinking, "Why didn't that work? I said the words in a calm voice!" Meanwhile, I was RAGING inside but kept my tone even. Newsflash: the emotions behind our words don't lie, people! The Ultimate Parenting Glow-Up: I'm spilling all my favorite insights from this amazing book "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do" by Amy Morin: They don't waste time feeling sorry for themselves (but they DO feel their feelings—big difference!) They don't give their power away (your teenager's eye roll doesn't control your mood, I promise!) They don't shy away from change (hello, adapting to each new stage of childhood!) ...and there's so much more goodness in the episode! The Story That Still Makes Me Tear Up: So picture little Andee, maybe 10 years old, in our giant brown 80s Suburban (oldest of SEVEN kids, remember?). I accidentally stepped right into one of the homemade pies my mom had made for the school fall festival. 🥧👟 I was MORTIFIED, waiting for the judgment hammer to fall. But my amazing mom just looked at me and said, "It's fine, it's totally fine," and drove on minus one pie. No big deal. THAT, my friends, is someone whose BEING and DOING are perfectly aligned. (Thanks, Mom! 💕) Your Homework (Because I Care): Stop asking "What do I DO when my kid does XYZ?" and start asking "Who do I want to BE when my kid does XYZ?" Game. Changer. Your kids don't need perfect—they need YOU in all your beautiful, messy, authentic glory. (And honestly? That's way more interesting anyway!) Sending buckets of love from New Zealand (only a week and a half left—we're soaking up every second!), Andee 💫 P.S. If you feel like you're failing sometimes, welcome to the club! The people who succeed aren't the ones who never fail—they're the ones who refuse to let failure be the end of their story. Keep going! P.P.S. I'm totally planning a whole episode on the journey of this trip and how it relates to parenting. Stay tuned! 🌏✈️ Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista…

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Ep #127 Relationships 2.0: Why Being Right is Overrated 40:53

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Okay, can we talk about something that's been LIVING in my brain lately? You know that feeling when you're absolutely POSITIVE you need to win an argument with your kiddo... and then suddenly realize that winning might actually be losing? Yeah, THAT. 🤯 In today's episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on something that's about to change your whole parenting game: what if I told you that being right isn't actually the goal? (I know, I know - stay with me here!) Here's what we're unpacking together: 🎯 The mind-blowing truth about relationships (spoiler alert: they're not what you think!) ✨ Why your relationship with your child isn't actually about their behavior (say what now?) 🧠 The secret sauce to difficult conversations that'll make you feel like a connection ninja 💫 My P.E.A.C.E. method that's about to become your new best friend 🔮 A late-night revelation that changed everything (because apparently, wisdom hits different at 2 AM!) Picture this: You're in the middle of a heated moment with your child CEO (aka your strong-willed child) , and instead of trying to prove your point, you've got this magical new way of handling things that actually WORKS. Sounds dreamy, right? That's exactly what we're diving into! Plus, I'm sharing my step-by-step guide to: - Dropping the right/wrong game (because honestly, who needs that drama?) - Listening like a fascinated scientist (way more fun than it sounds!) - Using facts as your secret weapon (they're like relationship Switzerland - totally neutral!) - Turning fear into your superpower (plot twist you didn't see coming!) Here's the thing, beautiful humans: The moment I stopped trying to win at parenting was the moment everything started shifting. And I mean EVERYTHING. Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista…

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Ep #126 The Hard Day Hypothesis 42:17

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Today's episode is basically what happened when years of parenting, and one very persistent thought about "hard days" collided into what might be one of the most important perspective shifts I've ever had. Grab your favorite drink and let's dive into this game-changing conversation! 🌟 In this episode, I'm diving deep into: Why the most successful parents (and people) are actually the ones most willing to feel negative emotions (mind-blown yet?) The shocking revelation about why there's actually no such thing as a "hard day" (stick with me on this one!) My confession about writing my book and why it took THREE WHOLE YEARS (grammar is still not my bestie, y'all) A totally new way to think about challenges that will revolutionize your parenting journey Real talk: I share some stories about my own journey, including that time I thought going to the store with one kid was THE HARDEST THING EVER (oh, sweet past Andee... just wait until you have six! 😂). My absolute favorite nugget from this episode? "The most successful people are the ones who are most willing to feel negative emotions." Let that sink in for a minute. 🤯 Whether you're currently: Dealing with a Sharpie artist who decided your walls needed "updating" Wondering if your teenager's eye-rolling could qualify as an Olympic sport Just trying to figure out why adulting feels so... adult-y This episode is your permission slip to see it all differently. Because maybe, just maybe, those "hard" days are actually just level-up opportunities in disguise! Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista…

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Ep #125 The Off-Track Behavior Masterclass: Because Timeouts Aren't Working and Oreos Aren't a Solution 40:27

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If you've ever found yourself googling "Is it normal for kids to fight 37 times before noon?" or "How to stop yelling when everything is LITERALLY ON FIRE" – I just dropped the survival guide we've all been desperately needing with this episode! What I'm Sharing In This Episode In this workshop (which was SO good I just HAD to share it on the podcast!), I'm walking you through: 🧠 The Off-Track Behavior Truth : I'm redefining what's actually happening when kids fight, ignore you, or melt down (hint: it's not them being jerks on purpose, I promise!) 😤 The Thought-Feeling-Action Chain : Why you go from "they're fighting again" to completely losing it in 2.5 seconds (and how to interrupt that pattern!) 🗺️ Your Personal Recipe Card : My step-by-step method for creating YOUR personalized emergency plan for those moments when you want to scream into a pillow. ⚡ The Connection Secret : How I learned to stay emotionally connected when every fiber of my being wanted to run away or shut down My Favorite Ah-Ha Moments To Listen For: "Off track behavior is when the kids are not able to stay within the boundaries we've established together. It's an indicator that the kids are struggling and need help." (This definition CHANGED MY LIFE, y'all. I used to think my kids were just being difficult on purpose!) "Your thoughts about them will be dependent on your expectations of them and how well they meet those expectations." (Ouch. Fifteen years ago this one hit me right in the parenting feels. But once I got it? GAME. CHANGER.) The Too-Exhausted-To-Listen-To-It-All Version: Your kids' behavior = information about what's happening inside them (not a personal attack on you!) Your thoughts create your reactions (and you can actually choose different thoughts!) Write down your personal off-track recipe on an actual card so your brain doesn't short-circuit next time Be the calm you want to see (even if you have to fake it till you make it at first!) Be patient with yourself because this parenting gig is HARD and we're all figuring it out as we go xoxoAndee ❤️❤️ P.P.S. In this episode, I talk about how I had to drive through a BLIZZARD to deliver this workshop. That's how important I think this stuff is. So if you're struggling, please know you're not alone – and there's a way through! (And maybe leave a review if this episode was helpful. It makes my day AND helps other parents find us!) Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista…

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Ep #124 Going All In: Why Half-Hearted Parenting is Like Training for the Olympics in Flip-Flops 50:50

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We're diving DEEP into what it really means to go all in - not just in parenting, but in life. And before you think "Oh great, another episode about trying harder" (I see you, I hear you), this is actually about something completely different. Remember Eddie the Eagle? That gloriously awkward British ski-jumper who showed up at the Olympics having barely ski jumped before (compared to the other competitors)? His story completely blew my mind, and it's going to change how you think about commitment forever. Trust me on this one. In this episode, I'm sharing: Why resilience isn't actually a personality trait (thank goodness, right?) The real reason your "failures" might actually be your biggest wins My slightly unhinged but totally effective $10,000 commitment challenge The Mario Kart theory of parenting (yes, this is a thing, and yes, it's going to make so much sense) Plus, I'm getting super real about my own journey - including that moment I looked at my 2023 photos and had a total "oh honey" moment about my fitness journey. Because sometimes the best way to learn about commitment is to face-plant a few times along the way (metaphorically speaking... mostly). And for my League peeps - whether you're in Pivot or Mastery - you're going to love how this ties into everything we've been working on. And if you're not in League yet... well, let's just say March's Pivot 5.0 is looking pretty tempting right now! 😉 So grab yourself something to drink (water with electrolytes is my go to these days), find a quiet spot, and let's talk about why a "sort of commitment" never won an Olympic medal - and what that means for all of us. Can't wait to hear what hits home for you! With love from the mountains, Andee P.S. If you've ever felt like you're not doing enough, not getting it right, or just generally fumbling through this whole parenting thing - this episode is especially for you. Because sometimes the shortest jump in Olympic history can actually be your biggest win. (Intrigued? Just wait - it's going to make you tear up a little. It did me!) Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista…

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Ep #123 The Past Only Exists In Your Head (And Why That Changes Everything About Parenting) 46:33

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Hey there, beautiful souls! 👋 In today's episode, we're diving deep into the messy, beautiful world of self-forgiveness and what it really means to "fail" as a parent. Imagine you've just had one of those moments where your kid's room looks like a tornado had a party with a hurricane, and you...may have slightly lost your cool. 😬 We've all been there, right? Today we're unpacking why beating yourself up about it is SO last season, and what to do instead. In This Episode: Why your past only exists in your thoughts (mind-bending stuff, folks!) The adorable children's book "The Sorry Plane" and what it teaches us about giving space for feelings Why Nelson Mandela's "I never lose, I either win or learn" quote will help you fulfill your parenting goals A beautiful forgiveness poem that might make you cry (in a good way!) How to transform your "mom fail" moments into growth opportunities The Thomas Edison approach to parenting - as adapted by me (he "failed" 10,000 times and turned out fine!) Quotable Moments : "If I could have done better, I would have done better" (Your new mantra, btw!) "Forgiveness is for you to give to you first" (Mind. Blown. 🤯) "The past is over - we're now bringing those memories and thinking about them right now" Key Takeaways: Your past isn't a life sentence (unless you keep replaying it on repeat in your head) Being hard on yourself isn't actually helping (shocking, I know!) Judgment keeps you stuck, curiosity moves you forward Your nervous system being activated isn't a character flaw (it's just being human!) Action Steps: Pick ONE recent parenting moment that's been playing on repeat in your head, and practice reframing it through the lens of compassion. (And maybe stick a Post-it note on your mirror that says "I'm doing my best" - trust me on this one! 💕) Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista…

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Ep #122 From 'I Can't' to 'Watch Me': The One Where We Break Up with Parenting Self-Doubt 34:08

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Ready for some real talk about that annoying roommate in your head called self-doubt? In this episode, we're getting cozy with our insecurities (but not TOO cozy - we're not giving them the comfy chair!) and discovering why that pesky voice of doubt might actually be your biggest cheerleader in disguise. ✨ Key Takeaways : Why self-doubt is actually a growth signal (plot twist!) The "back of the bus" technique for managing your inner critic Why " but what if it works out?" is your new best friend How to turn self-doubt from your boss into your growth compass Why your children are actually your personal coaches (surprise!) 🔥 Quotable Moments: "Every time you grow, every time you push yourself to the next level, every time your kids compel you to push yourself to the next level... the self-doubt will show up. It's part of the process." 💫 Action Steps : Notice when self-doubt shows up (it's like playing Where's Waldo, but with your thoughts!) Ask yourself "But what if it works out?" (revolutionary, right?) Send self-doubt to the back of the bus (thanks for your input, now shush!) Choose confidence like you choose your coffee order - intentionally and daily Join me in this episode where we get real about the voice in our head that needs a volume adjustment. Because let's face it - we're all in this growth journey together, even if we're pretending we know what we're doing! 😉✨ Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista…

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Ep #121 The Confidence Catch-22: Why Believing You're 'Not Enough' is Actually Keeping You From Being Enough 25:30

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Finding your parenting confidence is NOT about being perfect and more about embracing your inner 'I'm totally winging this but also kind of crushing it' energy. Today we're diving deep into the world of self-confidence. The "Not Enough" Trap: Why this thought is about as helpful as chocolate-covered broccoli The moment I realized self-doubt was just being extra dramatic What Elon Musk and broken glass taught me about parenting (stay with me here...) The Wild Truth About Self-Confidence: You can't validate your kids if you can't validate yourself! Why Michael Jordan's training mindset is exactly what we need for parenting The French have it right: I HAVE frustration - NOT - I AM frustrated (oui oui, mes amis!) The Confidence Equation: Growth mindset = Self-confidence factory Fixed mindset = External validation hamster wheel Why failure is just spicy feedback (and how to use it) Try This At Home: ✨ Start a "Why I'm Actually Awesome" list (even if it feels weird) ✨ Practice French-style emotion-having (oui, you can) ✨ Channel your inner confident penguin (they can't fly but strut anyway!) Keep being perfectly imperfect! Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista…

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Ep #120 Ease vs Evolution: A Parent's Guide to Growing Pains 37:18

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For everyone who's ever looked at their parenting journey and thought "This is... not what I expected" - this one's for you. Bonus points if you're currently listening to this while hiding in the bathroom for five minutes of peace! Quick question - ever had one of those moments where you're just living your life, and suddenly you find yourself crying over a scrapbook in a random Airbnb while having an existential parenting epiphany? No? Just me? Cool cool cool... 😅 In this slightly tear-stained but mostly joy-filled episode (recorded from the most unexpected taco spot in the Southern Hemisphere) : That lightbulb moment when you realize your most chaotic parenting moments are actually...kind of beautiful? (I know, I know, but stay with me here!) The story of how I went from being the "But Actually..." mom to choosing love instead (featuring: my bed, my stubborn brain, and an early morning revelation that changed everything) A surprise guest appearance by my teen's scrapbook that DEFINITELY didn't make me emotional Plus: What happens when you convince your family to travel the world for six months and somehow end up finding the best Mexican food near actual fjords?! PLOT TWIST: Turns out Jane Austen never wrote about hiding in the pantry eating emergency chocolate, but I bet Elizabeth Bennet would totally get it. Consider this your permission slip to be perfectly imperfect. Because let's be real - if we were meant to have it all figured out, kids would come with instruction manuals! P.S. Yes, I'm still emotional about that scrapbook. No, I'm not taking questions at this time. 😅 Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista…

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Ep #119 Don’t Stop Believin’: The Irresistible Parenting Protocol in 5 Simple Steps 47:01

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Hey, hey, my favorite parents! Have you ever found yourself caught in the "should have, would have, could have" trap with your kids? Or maybe you’ve hoped (or begged) they’d just listen this time —and felt that creeping frustration when they didn’t? Yep, I’ve been there, too. In today’s episode, we’re diving into The Irresistible Parenting Protocol —the exact process I use to help parents move from chaos to calm and get their kids to want to listen (without bribes, threats, or ultimatums). I’m sharing the three parenting mistakes that might be sneaking into your daily routines and keeping you stuck in a loop of frustration. We’ll explore how to replace them with easy, effective strategies that create connection—and results. What we’re covering today: The sneaky parenting habits that feel helpful but actually trigger your kids' nervous systems (hint: this is why they shut down or push back). Why your energy matters more than your words—and how to shift from needy and graspy to magnetic and calm. How to set firm boundaries without guilt, shame, or "policing" vibes. You’ll also hear about my run-in with a very kind police officer, a street performer who gathered a massive crowd, and how these real-life moments offer surprising insights for parenting. Trust me, this one’s a goodie! Favorite Takeaway: Parenting starts in your brain. When we become aware of our thoughts and choose ones that serve us, everything changes. Connection is the secret sauce, and it’s easier than you think. So grab your earbuds, hit play, and let’s get into it. You’ll walk away with actionable steps, a clearer perspective, and probably a laugh or two. Links & Resources: Grab my book, Connect Method Parenting , on Amazon: https://cmp.works/1xs ✨ Let’s connect: Follow me on Instagram @ConnectMethodParenting for daily doses of connection magic and parenting inspo! I can’t wait to hear your takeaways—send me a DM on IG! Let’s do this. ❤️ Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista…

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Ep #118 When Your Best Doesn't Feel Like It's Enough 48:25

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We’ve all had those moments where we put in so much effort, tried so hard, and still fell short. It’s frustrating, humbling, and, let’s be honest, sometimes it makes us want to give up. But what if those moments were exactly what we needed? In today’s episode, I’m diving into what happens when life doesn’t go as planned. Whether it’s your personal goals or watching your kids struggle to achieve theirs, this topic is close to my heart because I’ve been there. (Oh, have I been there.) From learning to drive on the left side of the road to parenting through countless meltdowns, I’ve learned that those “not enough” moments are some of the most important of all. We’re going to talk about why your best sometimes doesn’t feel good enough—and what to do about it. Here’s what we’ll cover: What is “your best,” really? Breaking it down into four parts: skill, attitude, commitment, and resilience. Why failure doesn’t mean you’re falling short —it means you’re growing. The secret to teaching your kids how to handle disappointment by modeling it yourself. How to close the gap between where you are now and where you want to be (without beating yourself up). Why the journey matters so much more than the destination. This episode is full of practical insights and personal stories to help you shift your perspective on failure—for yourself and for your kids. Because when we embrace the messy, imperfect process, we give our kids permission to do the same. A Favorite Takeaway from Today: “When we redefine failure as just another step in the process, it stops feeling like the end. It becomes part of what’s making us .” Here’s the thing: Parenting isn’t about being perfect. It’s about showing up, giving it your all, and knowing that even when it doesn’t work out, you’re still moving forward. It’s about finding joy in the journey—even the messy parts—and helping your kids see that they can, too. Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista…

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Ep #117 This is What’s Happening: The SOS Method for Parenting Without Losing It 29:48

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Ever feel like you’re caught in a parenting Groundhog Day? The tantrums, the fights, the endless messes... all while you’re trying your hardest to hold it together? Same. In this episode, we’re diving into something I call the SOS Method —a simple but powerful way to shift out of survival mode and into connection. We’re talking about how to stay present when your brain wants to hit the eject button, why noticing what’s actually happening changes everything, and how to ditch the self-judgment spiral once and for all. Here’s what we’re unpacking together: The magic of “This is what’s happening” —why accepting the moment (instead of fighting it) changes how you show up. Why slowing down is the real parenting superpower. How to hold space for all your feelings (yes, even the messy ones like frustration or self-doubt). The sneaky connection between emotional triggers and your beliefs—and how to gently rewrite the ones that aren’t serving you. My favorite tip for practicing calm before the meltdown happens Parenting isn’t about fixing our kids or controlling every situation. It’s about learning to stay steady—finding that calm center when the world (or your toddler) is spinning around you. And the good news? You don’t have to be perfect to make this shift. You just have to be willing. So grab your headphones and let’s dive in! You’ve got this, friend. Love, Andee Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista…

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Ep #116 Much Ado About Questions: Turning Good Questions Into BIG Parenting Wins 38:41

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Hey, hey, friends this week, we’re talking about something deceptively simple but ridiculously impactful: questions . Yep, those little sentences we toss around in our heads all day long are either helping us grow—or keeping us stuck. I’m sharing a personal story from my recent trip to New Zealand where a tug-of-war over a sea cave (yes, a literal sea cave!) led me to some profound realizations about parenting, connection, and emotional growth. Btw: the way I asked myself questions in the middle of a frustrating moment shifted everything . Here’s what we’re diving into today: Why the questions you ask yourself as a parent are everything . The three powerful questions I use to shift from overwhelm to clarity. How to spot “bad” questions and reframe them into empowering ones. What a park bench, sunshine, and a moment of reflection taught me about showing up better for my kids. You’ll also get some practical tips for keeping your cool when parenting feels like a battle and tools to model emotional regulation for your kids—because, let’s be real, they’re watching everything . 💡 Your Takeaway Challenge: Pick one empowering question to ask yourself every day this week. Not sure where to start? Here are some of my faves: How can I connect with my kids today in a way that feels fun and easy? What small change can I make to create a calmer home? What am I thinking right now, and why am I choosing to think it? As always, thank you for being here! I love that we’re on this parenting journey together. Go hug your kids, send a sweet text, or write them a love note—they’ll feel it, and so will you. 💕 See you next time! xo, Andee Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista…

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Ep #115 Great Expectations: Overcoming Victim Mentality to Connect with Your Kids 40:36

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Ever feel like you're stuck in the blame game? Like if your kids would just behave better , everything would be fine? Oh, friend, this one's for you. 🎙️ In today’s episode of the Connect Method Parenting Podcast, I’m diving deep into two mindsets that can either make or break your parenting journey: victim mentality and vulnerability . Here’s the truth: we all slip into victim mode sometimes—whether it’s blaming our kids, our schedules, or even the weather (hello, rainy day tantrums). But recognizing this sneaky mindset is the first step to shifting out of it. Here’s what we’re unpacking today: The sneaky ways victim mentality shows up in parenting (and how to spot it in yourself). Why vulnerability isn’t weakness—it’s your superpower. 💪 How shifting from blame to ownership transforms not just your parenting, but your entire life. Real-life examples (yep, including my own embarrassing ones) of how to stop the blame spiral and step into connection. I’m sharing tools to help you calm your nervous system, navigate challenging moments with your kids, and break free from the emotional tug-of-war that leaves everyone feeling frustrated. Because when you embrace vulnerability and ownership, you’re modeling emotional resilience for your kids—and isn’t that what we all want? Big takeaways from this episode: Blame is a dead-end street. Ownership is where everything happens. ✨ Vulnerability is about strength, not weakness. You can set limits and stay calm, confident, and connected—even during the messiest parenting moments. Let’s redefine what it means to show up for our kids (and ourselves!) with authenticity and grace. P.S. Got a story about how this resonates? DM me on Instagram or tag me in your parenting wins. I love hearing from you! 💌 Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista…

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Ep #114 We Can Work It Out: Strategies for Problem-Solving in Parenting 49:08

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If you’ve ever felt stuck in a loop of parenting problems that never seem to go away, this episode is for you. Today, I’m sharing a perspective shift that will change how you approach challenges—not just in parenting but in every area of your life. We’re breaking down The STEAR Framework (it’s a game-changer!) and diving deep into how our thoughts shape our experience of problems. I’m also getting personal, sharing reflections from my family’s multi-month adventure abroad and how one emotional moment with my daughter, Becca, brought it all into focus. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: The Truth About Problems : Why most problems aren’t what you think they are—and how this shift can change everything. The STEAR Framework in Action : How to consciously approach challenges so you can grow and connect more deeply with your kids. Tools for Reflection : How to use your past year (or even your camera roll!) to uncover what worked, what didn’t, and what to focus on in 2025. From Chaos to Calm : Practical strategies to handle common parenting “problems” like messy rooms, tantrums, or sibling squabbles with confidence. Why This Episode Matters Problems aren’t just roadblocks; they’re opportunities for growth—yours and your child’s. Whether it’s morning chaos or eye rolls at the dinner table, you’ll walk away from this episode with a fresh perspective and tools to redefine what’s possible in your parenting journey. Take Action This Week: List Your Problems : Write down all the “problems” in your parenting life. Separate Facts from Thoughts : Use the STEAR framework to simplify and reframe these challenges. Reflect on 2024 : What worked, what didn’t, and what do you want to focus on in 2025? Key Takeaways: Problems are neutral. It’s not the situation but your thoughts about it that create frustration. Connection is the goal. Solving problems consciously strengthens your bond with your kids and sets the stage for a more connected family life. Every challenge is an opportunity. Whether it’s a tantrum or a missed curfew, there’s a chance to grow—for both you and your kids. Resources Mentioned: The STEAR Framework : A step-by-step tool to shift your perspective on problems. Follow me on Instagram @connectmethodparenting to see Becca’s incredible dance compilation reel! Check out my website (https://connectmethodparenting.com) to find out when we're starting the next PIVOT round, which will dive deeper into reflection and problem-solving strategies for your best parenting year yet. Let’s make 2025 the year we approach parenting with curiosity, compassion, and connection. Remember, you’re doing so much better than you think you are. Now go connect your face off with your kids, and let’s tackle those “problems” together. If you loved this episode, please leave a review and share it with a fellow parent. Your support means the world to me! Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista…

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Ep #113 MVP: Why Rewards and Punishments Don’t Work - the Parenting Revolution You Need 21:56

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Hey, hey, everyone! Andee here! 🖐️ Let’s dive into a topic that is near and dear to so many of us—because, let’s be honest, we’ve all tried it—corrective parenting. You know, the old-school model of using rewards and consequences to manage behavior that doesn’t work long-term. Today, I’m breaking down exactly why. In this episode, we’re getting real about: The history of corrective parenting (hello, rats and pigeons 🐀🐦) and where it all began. Why rewards and punishments only create short-term behavior changes (and leave you exhausted). The hidden costs of corrective parenting—on your relationship, your child’s confidence, and their sense of safety. What neuroscience and developmental psychology have to say about how kids actually learn and grow. I’m also sharing what I know works: the Connective Parenting approach. No sticker charts, no bribes, no taking away their favorite toy. Just real connection that helps your kids want to listen to you. Sounds dreamy, right? If you’re tired of feeling like you’re stuck on the hamster wheel of correcting and consequencing, this episode is for you. We’re talking about kicking those old techniques to the curb and stepping into something that feels so much better—for you and your kids. And don’t forget, if you’re new to Connect Method Parenting, I’ve got a FREE course to get you started! We’ll cover the biggest parenting challenges and how connection changes everything. You can grab it here: cmp.works/course Let’s break up with corrective parenting and step into a developmentally appropriate way of raising our kids. It’s time. 💪 Catch you in the episode! xoAndee Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista…

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