How Avoidants React To Arguments | Can This Be Fixed?

The Thais Gibson Podcast

In this episode of Can This Be Fixed?, hosts Thais Gibson and Mike Di Zio dive deep into the complexities of attachment styles, offering personal insights and practical advice for anyone navigating relationships. Both former avoidants who have worked hard to become securely attached, Thais and Mike share their own experiences, discussing how they’ve overcome challenges and what they continue to work on.

This episode explores the reactions of fearful avoidants and dismissive avoidants after a heated argument and how it is handled by both attachment styles. Thais and Mike also discuss why certain attachment styles may or may not want children and the experiences leading up to those decisions. Whether you're trying to understand yourself or a loved one better, this episode provides valuable tools and perspectives to help you on your path.

Timestamps:

00:00:00 - Intro

00:02:12 - Viewer Question: Why Don’t Avoidants Want To Have Kids?

00:03:01 - Mike Shares His Reasons

00:06:07 - The Support System of Having Children

00:08:36 - Fear of Disempowerment

00:10:36 - Thais Shares from the Fearful Avoidant Perspective

00:13:14 - The Helicopter Parent

00:17:21 - Thais Answers Whether FAs Want Kids

00:19:10 - Shout Out to APs

00:20:01 - HelloFresh Ad

00:21:28 - Indeed Ad

00:23:21 - When Avoidants Freeze Up and Go Into Detachment Mode

00:24:23 - Mike Shares His Detachment Experiences

00:26:08 - Reconnection Phase

00:27:23 - Afraid of Overreacting and Saying Something Wrong

00:29:21 - Modelling From Parents

00:31:42 - Stonewalling and Icing the Other Person Out

00:36:38 - Fearful Avoidants and Spitefulness

00:41:58 - Mike Share His Insights How to Cope When a Partner Shuts Down

00:43:49 - Resolution

00:45:56 - Moving Forward

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