Episode #34 You Can't Always Get What You Want...

Bounce Back Like A Badass! with Cat Coley

...But if you try sometimes, you find, you get what you need ~ The Rolling Stones

There is so much truth to that verse, don't you think? Hindsight is always 20/20 of course. So many things in my life that I thought I wanted but didn't get - and it was all for the better. Even though at the time it was heartbreaking to comprehend, looking back so much of what I thought I wanted would have led me to different outcomes that weren't necessarily what I needed (the enjoyment of having that thing would have probably been short lived) .

The inspiration for this episode is actually a movie that I watched a month or so ago called "A Marriage Story". The story of a couple with a child who have found themselves on the verge of ending their marriage and all the intricacies that's involved with that decision - especially when an innocent child is involved. It spoke to me on so many levels - of course due to my own experience with this exact same situation. Even if the stories are different and these are fictional characters, I can imagine that a lot of people can probably see themselves in these characters.

I'm grateful with the path that my daughter's dad and I ended up choosing for our unique situation. I realize that not everyone is as fortunate as we were - in that we were both on the same page and we're both willing to truly set aside our differences to focus solely on our daughter. This movie shows the ins/outs of such a trying time during the ending of a relationship. Not just the heartbreak of walking away from someone you once loved - which is so difficult. But also, how to find your own footing again, how to regain your independence and how to find your place in the world - without your partner. I can't recommend this film enough and you don't need to be in a marriage or relationship to enjoy it either...but it certainly hits home even more if you are.

Life is always working out in our favor. I have to remind myself of this fact at times - especially when I want something so badly and it doesn't up the way I thought I wanted it. In the end, I have to remember that I always get what I need out of it . I'll see you inside the episode! xx Cat