Getting Off the Merry-Go-Round: Understanding Obsessive Thoughts in Betrayal Trauma

Healing with WORTH

In this episode of "Healing with Worth," Janine and Naomi continue their exploration of grief, particularly focusing on the phase of obsession following betrayal. They discuss how this phase can consume one's energy and leave someone stuck, often leading to hypervigilance, constant analyzing, and feeling unsafe. The hosts emphasize that while it's normal to experience obsession, it's crucial not to get stuck there. They highlight the importance of self-care, setting boundaries, and being present in the moment as key tools to move through this phase.

Janine and Naomi also differentiate between grieving a betrayal and grieving a death, noting that betrayal grief is complicated by the ongoing presence of the person who caused the pain. They discuss the process of healing, which involves not only the betrayed spouse's work but also the understanding that true safety and healing come from within. The episode concludes with a reminder that while it's normal to spin in obsessive thoughts, having the right tools and compassion for oneself can help in stepping out of it and moving toward healing.