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#117 Yes, No & Prioritizing What You Want
Manage episode 362350793 series 2900678
Scenario: You’re asked a yes-or-no question.
How do you respond?
Yes, without hesitating?
Awesome!
No, without regret?
Excellent!
No, with remorse because you really want to say yes?
Uh-oh… trouble ahead…
Yes, with bitterness and anger because you really want to say no?
Welcome to the People Pleasers Club… your future is at risk.
Not Joking.
How did yes-or-no questions get so complicated?!
Fear.
It all comes down to fear.
Fear of disapproval.
Fear of conflict.
Fear of unknown consequences.
Fear of judgment.
Fear of saying No.
If you’re saying Yes when you really mean No, then you’re probably People Pleasing.
If you’re saying No, but justifying your answer with “I can’t…” or “I shouldn’t…” then you still aren’t owning your choice…
So who’s getting hurt here?
YOU ARE!
People pleasing and justifying are self-defeating and disempowering actions.
They also aren’t polite or kind because they are disingenuous in nature.
These actions destroy self-confidence.
These actions inhibit your ability to create the life you want and to become the person you are meant to be.
Music Credit: Music by Lesfm from Pixabay
218 jaksoa
Manage episode 362350793 series 2900678
Scenario: You’re asked a yes-or-no question.
How do you respond?
Yes, without hesitating?
Awesome!
No, without regret?
Excellent!
No, with remorse because you really want to say yes?
Uh-oh… trouble ahead…
Yes, with bitterness and anger because you really want to say no?
Welcome to the People Pleasers Club… your future is at risk.
Not Joking.
How did yes-or-no questions get so complicated?!
Fear.
It all comes down to fear.
Fear of disapproval.
Fear of conflict.
Fear of unknown consequences.
Fear of judgment.
Fear of saying No.
If you’re saying Yes when you really mean No, then you’re probably People Pleasing.
If you’re saying No, but justifying your answer with “I can’t…” or “I shouldn’t…” then you still aren’t owning your choice…
So who’s getting hurt here?
YOU ARE!
People pleasing and justifying are self-defeating and disempowering actions.
They also aren’t polite or kind because they are disingenuous in nature.
These actions destroy self-confidence.
These actions inhibit your ability to create the life you want and to become the person you are meant to be.
Music Credit: Music by Lesfm from Pixabay
218 jaksoa
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