Jayson Gaddis - ”Getting to Zero” - How to master conflict resolution in your important relationships

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These days, I only fire up the podcast for people who I believe to be truly world-class at what they do.

@jaysongaddis is one of those people.

His book “Getting to Zero” provides a practical framework to master conflict resolution in our important relationships.

Jayson offered up a ton of practical wisdom about how we can approach conflict consciously, tips for effective communication, and how to navigate the inner turmoil that challenges our personal fulfillment and growth.

Here are 📌4 key takeaways from our chat…

1. 🎯 Taking ownership: Jayson explained how approaching conflict with ‘ownership’ of actions is key to constructive outcomes. This involves stepping out of the victim mentality and acknowledging one's contribution to the situation, even when we think the other person is at fault.

2. 💡 Cognitive Empathy versus Feeling Felt: He shed light on the distinction between understanding someone’s feelings (cognitive empathy) and truly making them feel understood, emphasizing the latter's powerful impact in conflict resolution.

3. 📚 Inner Conflict Resolution: Jayson discussed the concept of inner conflict deriving from compromising our true selves for acceptance. He also provides practical outlets and practices to bring harmony to the inner and outer worlds.

1. LUFU - LUFU means that you make a commitment to Listen to the other person Until they Feel Understood. It is a simple way to sharpen your listening skills in high impact conversations.

If these snippets piqued your interest, tune into the episode for deeper insights and tips.

You’ll walk away from this chat with a new lens on difficult conversations. You will learn how to face conflict as an opportunity to grow personally and create deeper understanding in your important relationships.

Enjoy.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=snbuEYtvINQ