Toxic Positivity is a Mother

Is A Mother

Toxic positivity is a Mother! It’s a topic that most of us can probably relate to as Western society has ingrained in us that we should be “likable” and aim to be positive all the time. An important disclaimer: we are by no means anti-positivity. We recognize the importance of creating space for all emotions. Sometimes life is hard, and to overcome challenges we need to acknowledge them, and take appropriate action to work through them, authentically.

In episode 16 of ___ Is a Mother, we discuss why making space for all emotions is important to avoid “toxic positivity”, and paying attention to the language we use when encouraging ourselves, others, and children. Some of the talking points we go over in this episode include:

• The toxic positivity we experienced when trying to get pregnant, and during Jamie’s cancer journey.
• Toxic positivity, although well-intended, can minimize people’s struggles and close the door to connection.
• The toxic positivity we unintentionally pass onto our children by rewarding happy behaviors and failing to consider the implications of affirmations that aren’t rooted in values, feasibility, and action.
• Aligning our authentic selves and our social (influenced) selves can help us live with purpose.

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LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

The Momwell Podcast Ep. 145: How to deal with toxic positivity as a Mom with Whitney Goodman, Marriage and Family Therapist

Toxic Positivity by Dr. Whitney Goodman

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Finding Your Own North Star by Martha Beck

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1. Toxic positivity is a mother! (00:00:00)

2. PV and Jamie share their experiences with toxic positivity, particularly in their journey to become mothers. (00:06:58)

3. The appropriateness of saying certain phrases to people going through difficult times. (00:10:54)

4. PV reflects on instances of silence and intentionality in response to global events, prioritizing individual outreach and respectful communication. (00:15:18)

5. The dangers of toxic positivity and the importance of acknowledging and accepting negative emotions. (00:19:04)

6. Motherhood in modern society: juggling roles and expectations. (00:25:38)

7. Jamie and PV discuss the stigma around moms taking breaks and the importance of emotional expression. (00:29:22)

8. Helpful tips on creating healthy and attainable affirmations that are backed up with real action, rather than just positive thinking alone. (00:36:30)

9. Aligning authentic and social selves for purpose and happiness. (00:44:28)