EP51 The Hidden Red Flags of Domestic Abuse: Are You Missing the Signs?

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In this episode, I look into the often-overlooked signs of abuse in relationships (after touching on Betrayal Blindness too). Abuse isn't always obvious; it can be subtle, manipulative, and deeply damaging. That’s why I’ve highlighted 15 key indicators that you or someone you know might be in an abusive relationship.

1. Physical Violence

2. Verbal Abuse

3. Emotional Manipulation (plus DARVO explained)

4. Isolation

5. Control

6. Jealousy

7. Blame Shifting

8. Intimidation.

9. Financial Abuse

10. Sexual Abuse

11. Gaslighting

12. Threats

13. Punishing Behaviour

14. Digital/Technology Abuse

15. Unpredictable Behaviour

Each of these signs is a red flag in a relationship and can lead to a destructive cycle of abuse. My aim in this episode is to help recognise the signs and the patterns, whether that’s in your own relationships or in those around you. I really want to empower listeners to identify and break free from these harmful dynamics.

But I do know it’s not easy to get out and I also know that post separation abuse is another added worry…. So please please please do seek the proper support:
Women's Aid: Offers support services and a directory of local domestic abuse services.

https://www.womensaid.org.uk/

Refuge: Provides emergency housing, support, and advocacy for women and children escaping domestic violence.

https://refuge.org.uk/

National Domestic Abuse Helpline: A 24-hour helpline offering confidential support and advice.

https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/contact-us/

These are all UK based ones but please do look out for support services in the country/State you are in.

And also, this month in the Divorce Book Club we are reading It’s Not You: How to Identify and Heal from Narcissistic People by Dr Ramani Durvasula. Dr Ramani is an expert in narcissistic abuse (including non-intimate relationships like a parent or your boss) and this book is also amazing for highlighting abuse in relationships. You can check out the book here:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1785045024/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

I’d love to see you over there 📚

We started 1 August (but it’s never too late to join as access to all previous books and chapters available to all members)

Link to join below ⬇️

So until next week,

Sending you SO much love and please take care of you

Sarah x

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1. Why talk about abuse? What is Betrayal Blindness? (00:00:00)

2. The 15 indicators of Domestic Abuse (00:04:47)

3. Physical Violence (00:07:51)

4. Verbal Abuse (00:10:56)

5. DARVO and Emotional Manipulation (00:13:07)

6. Isolation, Coercive Control, Jealousy and Blame Shifting (00:15:26)

7. Intimidation to Intimate Partner Sexual Violence (00:20:49)

8. Gaslighting, Threats, Punishments, Tech Abuse and Unpredictable Behaviour (00:23:26)

9. Finding the Help and Support (00:28:07)

10. Safety Planning (00:29:52)