Enneagram Type 2 The Helper

Upbuilding The Self

Enneagram Type 2s, nicknamed The Helper, are all about taking care of others and having deep intimate connections so they can feel really close and loved. They also have a hard time giving others space or seeing their own needs. Famous examples include Fred Rogers, Sally Field, and Stevie Wonder.
In this episode, we explore the essence of the Type 2 and the insecurities and motivations that drive their every action and relationship. We walk you through the story of the Type 2’s life by looking at their journey through the Levels of Consciousness from their healthiest to their average to their most destructive ways of operating. We close the episode by offering a critical type-tailored practice to help 2s rise up in consciousness and be the best version of themselves.
This episode is designed to help Type 2s thrive in their personal and professional lives by fostering a deeper understanding of their insecurities and motivations. It’s also an invaluable resource for friends, partners, and colleagues of Type 2s who wish to better support and relate to them.

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1. Enneagram Type 2 The Helper (00:00:00)

2. The Essence Qualities of tenderness, sweetness, and warmth (00:02:30)

3. The Basic Fear of not being lovable enough and not having love myself to be worthy of love (00:03:00)

4. The Basic Desire to feel loving (00:04:00)

5. Creative Consciousness. Being in touch with my needs and serving unconditionally. (00:05:30)

6. The identity crisis that comes from recognizing that I am needy (00:07:00)

7. Controlling Consciousness comes when I become insecure because I don’t feel enough intimacy (00:10:15)

8. The Type 2 propensity to lean in (00:11:30)

9. Putting a little extra top spin on my actions (00:12:15)

10. The dishonest story I am telling myself about being selfless and others needing me (00:12:45)

11. The controlling tendencies to be flattering and hovering (00:14:30)

12. Destructive Consciousness. I am driving people away because I am so intense (00:15:00)

13. Kathy Bates in Misery. The violence of the destructive 2. (00:16:00)

14. The practice to climb up the levels of consciousness: become extremely aware of how you are doing things with strings attached (00:18:00)