59. How to De-Escalate Yourself - Part 2

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

Let’s continue our conversation on how to de-escalate ourselves and take the conversation a bit deeper. Inspired by a Brene Brown interview, Seth and I explore the importance of communicating our levels of regulation to our partners. What do each of us, at this exact moment, have the bandwidth for? We only have so much energy in the day, and knowing our own energy levels and communicating it with our partner, can help us acknowledge what we can and cannot deal with in the moment.

That is just step one. Tune in to today’s episode to learn more about recognizing the feeling of guilt in ourselves as a red flag for reacting from a place of emotion, and much more!

In this episode on how to de-escalate yourself, we discuss:

• Communicating energy levels with your partner;
• Recognizing guilt as a red flag;
• Moving past guilt and shame for effective communication;
• Processing dysregulated thoughts and emotions;
• Emotional communication within your family;
• The importance of processing emotions and taking time;
• And more!

If you’d like to connect, you can find me on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or go to my website www.bethhillmancoaching.com. And if you’re interested in working with me, you can learn more about my private coaching here or my group coaching here.

And remember parents, the change begins with us.

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1. De-escalation: A Different Opinion on Self-Management (00:00:00)

2. Greeting and Setting the Stage (00:00:56)

3. Communicating Energy Levels and Support (00:02:15)

4. Recognizing Guilt as a Red Flag (00:11:35)

5. Moving Past Guilt and Shame for Effective Communication (00:12:47)

6. Understanding the Variability of Emotional Processing (00:13:06)

7. Processing Dysregulated Thoughts and Emotions (00:15:19)

8. Emotional Communication within the Family (00:20:55)

9. The Importance of Processing Emotions and Taking Time (00:22:08)