85. Boundaries: How to Understand and Set Them

A Jaded Gay

Boundaries are essential guidelines, defining the limits of acceptable behavior and establishing a framework of respect and mutual understanding. But due to societal pressures, stereotypes, and the historical stigmatization of non-heteronormative relationships, some gay men may exhibit people-pleasing tendencies, which makes it challenging to implement boundaries and contributes to feelings of isolation and a reluctance to assert personal limits.
In this episode, we’re navigating the complex world of boundaries, addressing the unique challenges gay men may face in setting and maintaining them, and offering insights on identifying and establishing personal boundaries for more authentic and fulfilling interpersonal relationships.
Additional Resources:

• Why Personal Boundaries Are Important and How to Set Them
• A Quick Guide for Gay Men Who Want to Set Better Boundaries
• Got Boundaries? Here's the Top 4 Boundary Struggles Only LGBTQ+ Folks Will Understand
• How to Figure Out Your Boundaries

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1. Snarky Opener (00:00:00)

2. Episode Introduction (00:00:35)

3. Spotify Wrapped 2023 & Rising Up the Charts (00:02:19)

4. Huffington Post Appearance (00:02:54)

5. Patreon Content (00:03:35)

6. A Jaded Gay Wants to Hear from You! (00:04:46)

7. Stay Tuned for More Guests (00:05:50)

8. Boundaries (00:06:37)

9. Tarot (00:08:42)

10. What is a Boundary? (00:10:43)

11. Boundary Categories (00:11:13)

12. We All Have Different Boundaries (00:11:49)

13. Why is It Hard to Set Boundaries? (00:12:38)

14. Why Boundary Setting is Difficult for Gay Men (00:13:23)

15. Challenges Gay Men Face When Setting Boundaries (00:13:51)

16. Most Gay Men Struggle with Identifying Their Boundaries (00:14:44)

17. [Ad] So Meta (00:16:11)

18. (Cont.) Most Gay Men Struggle with Identifying Their Boundaries (00:16:59)

19. How to Define Your Boundaries (00:17:25)

20. When to Set a Boundary (00:19:11)

21. Examples of Boundary Challenges (00:19:53)

22. Setting Emotional Boundaries (00:20:54)

23. Setting Physical Boundaries (00:21:50)

24. Setting Sexual Boundaries (00:22:56)

25. Setting Workplace Boundaries (00:23:27)

26. Setting Material Boundaries (00:24:06)

27. Setting Time Boundaries (00:24:41)

28. Boundary Violations (00:25:35)

29. Boundary Setting Exercise (00:26:34)

30. Episode Closing (00:27:41)

31. Connect with A Jaded Gay (00:28:14)

32. Outtake (00:30:40)