Sex and Love: Addressing the Intimacy Recession (with Gwendolyn Dolske)

The Soul's Work Podcast

In this episode, Janice and her guest Gwendolyn Dolske (philosophy professor and host of the Good Is In The Details Podcast) discuss the current "intimacy recession" among young people that is not only keeping individuals from experiencing pleasureful sex, but also placing them in risky situations. They share about their own experiences of learning how to bring more intimacy into their relationships and discovering what turns them on, from erotic novels to BDSM. And they talk about the harmful impacts of denying our young people nuanced sex education and open, honest conversations about sex and intimacy.

This episode covers:

• What is philosophy and how does it shape our lives?
• Gwendolyn’s philosophy course on sex and love
• The current sex and intimacy “recession” among young people
• What’s missing: knowing our own bodies and pleasure first
• The taboo of masturbation for girls
• Gwendolyn’s personal path to discovering intimacy and pleasureful sex
• The disconnect between how young men behave vs. how they really feel about intimacy
• The phenomenon of young women giving sexual favors just to end a date
• How men are also harmed living in a heterosexual, mysognistic culture
• How BDSM can give people the space to explore different sides of their sexuality, including submissiveness for men
• How consent and open conversations actually enhance your sex life
• What Gwendolyn has learned as a professor from her students
• What gives Gwendolyn hope about the younger generations
• How to connect with Gwendolyn

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Connect with Gwendolyn Dolske:

• Instagram: @goodisinthedetailspod
• Instagram: @profdolske
• Podcast: Good Is In The Details Podcast

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Resources mentioned in this episode:

• The Second Sex, Simone de Beauvoir
• The Symposium, Plato
• “WHY ARE YOUNG PEOPLE HAVING SO LITTLE SEX?” (Kate Julian, The Atlantic)
• "How To Be A FemDom" (Good Is In The Details Podcast)
• Overthink Podcast
• “What young women believe about their own sexual pleasure” (Peggy Ornstein, TEDWomen 2016)
• For Brown Girls with Sharp Edges and Tender Hearts: A Love Letter to Women of Color (Prisca Dorcas Mojica Rodriguez)

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Janice is a therapist-in-training and not licensed to work with clients.

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